Re: Step Moms
Another problem I see in our society is that we think it is wrong for a father or mother to marry again. We think that it is ok for children to do what they want in their teenhood and not right for parents to do the same when they are in need of it. Like for example, we would have no problem with a boy or a girl marrying again if they had divorce from previous spouse but we have a problem if an elder person was to do the same, even though his/her spouse died a natural death. And the marriage is not always for intercourse, sometimes a person just needs a companion to spend his/her time with. If Allah the Almighty, the Lord of heaven and earth, the Creator, does not have a problem with that, why should we? If it was haram for a parent to marry again after a certain age, Allah would have made it clear. Islam is not as complicated as we make it.
Remarriage itself may not be haram but there are many complicated factors at it other than just being "allowed"...
a man and woman are together for 30-40 years, they have children, grandchildren, they ahd a happy life... but one of them dies..u think it's that easy for them to even entertain the thot of re-marriage? And not to generalize, but i do think it'd be much harder for a woman to re-marry, not socially but emotionally, knowing that what she shared with her husband... I know men must grieve in their own way, but i've heard of cases where men remarried less than a year after their wife died..how fair is that to their children and her memory??
So yes, just b/c it's allowed, and that men have no iddat period like women do, doesn't mean that he should go and re-marry within months just b/c they're "lonely" or, less likely, that she'll get married in a year....it's like polygamy, in the sense that it's allowed, it's there, but it doesnt mean one has to actually implement it in their life if they choose not to..if they do, they have to think 100 times before taking any step b/c everybody is affected...