My mom was telling me of a girl that’s husband divorced her after 2 years of marriage and they had 2 kids. She was REALLY pretty, and a doctor so no doubt she coulda found someone. but the only reason she didn’t marry again was for her kids. that her husband wouldn’t treat them like they were his. this is so sad. and its more of a pakistani thing. but WHY are ppl like this.
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although you have a valid point, its still not good to generalize....i know many pakistani families who have step children and i think its all about treating each other with love and respect ....i hope things work out for the girl.
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Hmmm what's more common in desi society, stepmothers or stepfathers ?
Do desi women generally re-marry after divorce/death? I've heard it can be quite difficult for a woman whos marryign a divorced/widowed man with children, every1 will have a difficult time adjusting.. even in US culture, look at our childrens nursery rhymes, stepmother is usually evil :(
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its very common for women to not marry once widowed or divorced for the sake of their kids... its a huge sacrifice... its go absolutely nothing to do with being a paki or a desi. i guess .... god forbid.. u havta be going thru this situation to be able to fully comprehend it .
a maternal grand aunt of mine got widowed at the age of 19 with 6 kids i think... she never remarried, worked and provided as much as she could for her kids.. it was a huge sacrifice.. she got plenty of rishtay cuz she was a beauty.. but she said no.. didnt wanna risk her childrens well being... understandable.
in boarding school, i met quite a few, actually no, the hostel was full of girls who had been abandoned by parents cuz they had divorced and remarried and neither parent was willing to take them in...
its a tricky and sad situation to be in for both kids and their parents.
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i don't think its fair to generalise...there are men out there who do not have such a low mentality...one can luv a child without them being their biological child...the problem is that finding them is difficult, but then again just finding a nice man is difficult.