independent living away from parents and close family, in another part of the country may be possible, here, especially for females, but do we see the trend of moving away from parents’ home, in Pakistan for jobs’ sake?
what re the related issues and what can ensure that this does happen, successfully?
or is it so unsafe that men and women, cannot be away from their parents’ homes, unless they share space with other friends if they move to their own independent apartment of house?
I think living independently makes you more confident, you learn to take your decisions and manage your home and life without any support. You cannot hold the hands of your parents for the whole life.
As far as the safety element is concerned, then it always depends on you that how and with whom do you live. If you are confident enough to deal with the people then you are safe.
Islamically, I think it is discouraged for women to be without their mehrams accompanying them. Living alone would be one of those situations.
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"Sayyiduna Abu Huraira (Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said: “It is unlawful for a woman who believes in Allah and the last day that she travels the distance of one day and one night without a Mahram accompanying her”. (Sahih al-Bukhari, no. 1038)."
Personally, I go to school/work/grocery store/masjidetc without any mehrams. I've always lived at home, but I have gone for summer programs and even Islamic conventions in other cities and I've found them beneficial. Basically I would be housebound if I followed the mehram rule because the males in my family work or go to school. Of course, a woman who follows Islam perfectly would not mind this, and would stay home no matter what.
I guess a lot of us feel bad writing it out like this...because then it seems like there's a difference between our religion and our internal beliefs, when we don't want there to be!! So some people will try to find hadiths/quran to justify their internal beliefs....others might try to do vice versa....but before you start judging anyone harshly, think about everything through and through. Moral issues are never entirely black or white.
Oops I never answered your questions...Dushwari, i noticed you usually ask a lotttt of questions at once!! well basically I have never seen a Pakistani women or even a group of women living alone but my mom has told me that even in her zamana, there was a girls 'hostel' on her campus so I guess it happens. And I know many men who have gone to diff cities within Pakistan for jobs. Anyway your questions are kind of broad in scope...cant really answer in one post. I guess you want ppl to say that living alone is bad..?
truly speaking, in any islamic country, specially talking about pakistan, women can't live alone. there has to b sum1 with her. sum mehram, who can save her from the social elements working outside. in islam women have to b in the custody of either father or brother or husband. on this basis, it is noteworthy that if they live alone, how broadminded the area is, she has to face the male-chauvanism which doesn't permit women to live alone.
thanks for saying this Fraudia bhai.
only if people knew, Islam is not anti-women or opressor religion and that same independence that any human being should have, womenkind has the same right to it.
in fact the responsibility of the environment where all people can live without feeling unsafe, is something that all people must sustain in any societal establishment.
islam does not allow for women to be living on their own? where?
Ive lived alone for a few years and it did me a load of good. I needed it to become more independant and free thinker. When you live at home, you live in a house your parents bought, your mother decorated and you just live there.
I moved out for school but I was working and going to school at the same time so I could afford to live on my own. I didnt like having room mates - was always scared one of them might bring a guy home one day - lol.
Sure, it was hard at first since I came from a noisy and big family but I got used to it and before I knew it, I had my own system. I had complete independance and learned how to manage my life. The freedom also teaches you to be responsible. I was never into partying but living alone made me more safety conscious and practical.
It was simply amazing...wouldnt change that part of my life...ever. :)