Staying single

LP · March 16, 2012, 6:36pm

Re: Staying single

Desi society (any place in the world:) )

Well definatelt NOT!

To be honest, i have thought about it . i know its not a decision that wud make my parents (they r the only ones who really matter 2 me) happy especially my mom would not take it well but my dad would be kinda ok with it. Infact when i once said something like this 2 him, he was like if u think u can carry on with yr life like this without going astray then by all means go ahead dnt marry. But the thing is its not like i don’t want to marry but i don’t want to marry a wrong person or into a wrong family just for the sake of getting married…if you know what i mean. I know everyone has to compromise n adjust but when you are not sure of somebody then its always better to take your time instead of rushing into it. I have seen people especially girls marrying, actually their parents getting them married off jaldi jaldi in the fear that if they get above a certain age it would be difficult for them to find anyone at all. But i am actually not in favor of it and all of it boils down to your Imaan. If it’s in your destiny to get married you will, your job is to be efficient in the process that would enable you to find a good match however it shouldn’t be made a matter of life and death.

One of my most constant dua is that i want to marry happily, never gonna go into a marriage where my heart is not totally into it iA. And just recently i have gotten another dua for myself which is that if i am gonna end up as a churail bahu/biwi like most girls are nowadays, i rather not get married. It’s better to lead a not very “happy” life myself instead of making life hell for another family.

My thoughts exactly(well most of it with few difference)

Who do you share your birthday with ?

Desi society doesn’t approve of girls staying single. One of my aunties stayed single single since she was engaged to her cousin who left for US and got married there and she decided not to marry ever. The life has been difficult for her, all her siblings being settled and everyone not being there for her. Although she has been having a good career, she basically doesn’t have a family of her own, her husband and her children.

Desi parents have a fear of what will happen to their daughters if they remain single since they know their sons and bahus cannot be the family which their daughters will need after the death of the parents. Girls might take a decision to stay single, but usually time can tell whether they will regret their decision or not.

Does ur aunt regret her decision?
Girls can adopt kids too if they want?no?

They do it for a religious reason…wht im talking abt isnt for religious reasons.

By choice?