My husband has a give and take relationship with my parents. They call him if they know he's sick or on special occasions. He does the same. My relationship with his family used to be "give give give". I always called and they actually complained to him if I missed calling them one week but they NEVER called me or my family, not even on special occasions. 2 of my birthdays have passed since we married and 1 anniversary but no one bothered to call or text and wish. Gradually I stopped calling. I call my MIL once a month, talk to her for 5 mins and ask after her health and everyone else. That way if he ever asks I can say without lying that I called her. I have no obligation of calling his other family.
No wonder every pakistani is suffering from High blood pressure!.. Why so many restrictions? If you wanna call, then call. If not, then dont. They will make a bit tamasha, being the original pakistanis that we’re, and then it will all fade out .. Thankfully, we’ve no such traditions at home and everyone’s BP is extremely normal..
As my mother says “Assi nahin asa saar da dard paal de ”
It’s not a problem when you’re the guy…men expect their wives to keep in contact with their in-laws, in-laws expect the same of the girl. So despite what many Pakistanis want to do, they still have to forge some “loving”/“respectful” relationship/communication.
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