Staying in a volatile marriage...divorce rate going up

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Re: Staying in a volatile marriage…divorce rate going up

@salaam2k14

No of course in most cases i’m guessing the person is not shutting up and steps are taken to show that the abuse will not be tolerated and that’s why the marriage is given another chance right? The basis of still wanting to work on the marriage is the fact that we are all flawed individuals.

A woman that has no means of income most likely would think that marriage after divorce is not possible because the word divorce already has such a negative tag attached to it so she stays.

I’ve seen a person that got a divorce after 1 month of marriage or after a couple months of marriage which initially when I hear that I feel like how much was the marriage given a chance if after only 1 month divorce is taken as a very serious option.

Well, I believe there is a line beyond which compromises and making-it-work doesn’t really work. Physical abuse is one of those things. Some people can’t tolerate it at all and rightly so and thats why they get out of marriage only 1 months after because they think they haven’t invested much and are better off alone or remarrying than taking a chance that a person might change and stop hitting. So you can’t really blame them for getting divorce 1 month out and its not their fault that divorce rate is high. If you want to blame, blame it on the guy who raised his hand.

Other woman might want to make things work and give it another chance. But usually once a person raises hand on his wife, he will again in the future - 2 months, 3 yr, 5 yr down the road whatever. Exceptions do exist but not very common.

Ofcourse getting a divorce 1 month after marriage because husband doesn’t do dishes/or doesn’t buy flowers etc. is absurd and ridiculous. But I don’t think most girls get divorce for that reason