Re: Staying in a volatile marriage…divorce rate going up
and where is the value in beating your spouse? because last time i checked that wasn’t part of marriage either. so if the abusive spouse is not keeping up their end of the contract - to love and honour and treat their spouse well - then why the hell should the abused stay married to them ‘for the sake of marriage’? screw that!
just depends on your view really, my own father is volatile and my mother chose to stay with him. and yes, i can safely say that he is a changed man now (thanks to the fact he is older and more ill therefore has no energy to behave the way he used to) and thankfully he has calmed down a lot but does that necessarily mean it was worth it? thats like being involved in a nasty accident and surviving it. sure you survived but you still have the scars and mental anguish to remind you of what happened to you. i certainly couldn’t do it, marriage is meant to be a beautiful thing therefore i expect it to be beautiful. i will be my husbands wife, not his damn property to treat the way he wants. heck people are even nicer towards their actual property. you never see men beating down their car or tearing up their house but give him a wife and hes happy to break her bones?
never mind divorce, if my husband beat me i’d probably kill him. rant over