Stay at Home Wives/Mothers and Spending Money

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Re: Stay at Home Wives/Mothers and Spending Money

@luvblingz

I know what you mean and it’s a legitimate question. It’s difficult when you’re a stay at home wife to know where your boundaries are in spending- especially if you’re a newlywed. I’m used to having my own money that I earned and now I don’t- and I feel guilty taking money from my husband for things that are just for me.

Also for the gift issue- his birthday recently passed and I didn’t get him anything because I thought it would be silly to buy him something with his own money- he could just buy whatever he wanted himself in that case instead of me trying to guess what he would like

As for how do I get money to spend on the home, groceries, etc.. it has to come from him- I don’t have a choice (and before people start saying why don’t I get a job- I can’t work in the country where we live)

Well we were in a situation for some time i.e when my wife was not authorized to work in US but our money dynamics were same then as its now (when she can work and has worked for some years). Its the duty of SO to support wife in such case and make her know that whatever he is earning is ‘OUR’ money and not ‘HIS money’.

My wife also has such thoughts (its HIS money etc) in the beginning. Even before marriage, she never asked for pocket money form her parents (other than education fees etc). She taught kids since she was in grade 8 herself to earn herself pocket money. To be true, initially I did not think about it but couple of discussion made me realize that she should have sense of financial freedom too. Opening a joint account and one on her name, getting her credit/debit cards etc really helped. Another thing that helped is that she took on the role of home accountant. Paying bills and doing any day to day banking was her responsibility.