Re: Stay At Home Dads
@khattichic
With that said, I don’t think I could be a full time stay at home dad, not because of “Log kya kahain ge” or the stigma, but because I know my kid would drive me bat-$hit crazy if I had to spend every minute of every hour with her. Secondly, I’m the kind of person who needs to DO something. If I wasn’t working, I’d do projects, I’d build things.
As far as the stigma, listen, desis will mock you no matter what, you have no idea how many of my Pakistani acquaintances constantly mock me and say “Tumhari to biwi kamaati hai, tum kyooN kaam karte ho?”, it is their way of trying to put me down, but I don’t really care. If you want to really talk about it, then remember, that the Prophet’s wife was the breadwinner in their relationship, Khadija was the business owner and he worked FOR her. So there’s no shame there.
I just go with the flow, God gives in exact measure and if He decided to give my wife more, then know that He is the best planner. I**'m also blessed enough to be married to a woman who regardless of the fact that she makes about 3x more money than me, asks ME before she spends it and is always the first to remind me that I’m the captain of the ship and that we make decisions together.** It is God’s mercy on us that we have NEVER, in 15 years of marriage, fought over money. I think that a big part of that is because we got married young and grew together through bad times and good.
You are a wise man and THIS is true respect. You sound like my husband. He is a wise man like yourself. I am so proud of him because of the kind of person he is. Every time I read a post here, I realize I have married a man ahead of his time, so mature and grateful. He is my biggest fan and I am his…