Re: Stay at home DAD?
What's he going to do at home all day?
Why, watch Star Plus dramas and argue with his mom about who gets to cook the daal ofcourse.
Re: Stay at home DAD?
I know two couples who have this type of arrangement. 1 is a CRNA that works with hubby. 2 kids...currently approx. 6 and 8. He stayed at home full-time while the kids were young. When the youngest started kindergarden, he actually became a coach in their school. Along with teaching PE classes in their school, he also coaches their soccer team after school. Another couple we know...Indian, is about to start this arrangement. She's currently about 7 months pregnant and once the baby gets here, HE will give up his career and stay home full-time.
My opinions below are based on what I see in the 2 couples above, and also what I've observed from other non-traditional families (single parents, gay parents etc.):
now would it be a good idea to go ahead with this? what would the kids think? what would others think that he lives off his wife's money. also, what if his wife stops respecting him and all those things.
1) If the husband and wife agree that this arrangement is the BEST option for the future of their marriage and child, then yes, it's a good idea for them to go ahead with this.
2) What the kids think will depend on how the parents handle the arrangement. I know kids that have raised by single parents and gay couples. I'm sure we've all heard of stories of desi kids being shipped off to aunt/uncles/grandparents etc. for a "better life". Being raised by a stay-at-home dad is no different. It's non-traditional to outsiders....but for the kids, that's "normal". Another example: I'm sure many kids out there have negative opinions of a woman wearing niqab...they might think its weird/abnormal/ninja-like etc.. But for kids whose mother wears a niqab, I'm sure it doesn't seem so abnormal.
3) In my social circle, we don't look down on the 2 couples that're doing this/planning on it. Comparaing that wife's income to the husband's, it makes perfect sense for us that she should continue working. I'm sure there are others who will look down on the situation. But a couple should not base big decisions like this on what outsiders think. They need to stay focused on the future of their family. Its easy for outsiders to judge but no one is going to watch their kids for free full-time.
4) LOL....there are TONS of "what ifs". Of course there is a possibility that the wife might lose respect. On the other hand, there is also that possibility that the wife will INCREASE her respect for her husband for making such a major sacrifice for his wife/child. No decision is risk-free. The 1st couple I mentioned, personally I have never seen/heard anything that gives me the impression that she doesn't respect her husband. On the contrary, she's his biggest cheerleader! So all these "what if's" depend entirely on the individual couple.
Re: Stay at home DAD?
Women will start questioning the whole concept of marriage if more men develop the proclivity to be 'stay at home dads' / househusbands.
Re: Stay at home DAD?
banda thora dheet bn jae to life buht maze me guzre ge :D