General question: if there is only one bhabhi in the family as there is only one son who is also the eldest sibling, what is her status in the family? During a wedding would she be expected to be forefront during all the rasms etc? Welcoming the baraat, being present during nikkah, dhood pilai jhoota chupai, family pictures, the rukhsati?
Is she due the respect that her husband gets naturally from his younger siblings and family?
Thoughts, opinions, comments all welcome.
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who is the ‘jhooTha’ = ‘Liar’ here? and, why would you wanna hide a man from the crowd? 
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Jhoota as in jhutee as in shoe lol
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oh ok…i got it…so, you meant ‘jootaa’ and ‘jootii’ [no ‘h’]…
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Families vary in their beliefs about such matters. I don’t see why the remaining siblings cannot stand alongside bhabi and welcome the baraat at the same time as her. It takes just one pair of hands to hold/present the doodh pilai glass and usually other family members stand close by. When you take family pictures where everyone is either seated or standing together or both…it would become hard to tell who is at the forefront of the pictures.
We will always “naturally” have more respect, regard, concern, sacrifice for immediate family. The irony is that such closeness also tends to come with greater laxity in speech and behavior…sometimes we lose patience more quickly with family than we do with let’s say a coworker or friend…but that’s another topic. Is she due respect? I find that question to be strange. Ideally we should respect everyone…whether younger or older…relative or otherwise…etc etc. if we want respect, we should give respect. If bhabi is crossing the line in some way, then talk to her about it directly. As far as “status” is concerned, every relation has its special place and importance. Within our own family, we know the rules and how things go. But when forming new relations through marriage, it takes time for the “outsider” ..such as a bhabi for instance…to adjust to her husband’s family and their way of life. So, it 's good to help the new person settle in. Your thread is vague, so hard to answer the question. Seems like there’s a conflict but you 're not being specific. Anyhoo, hope this helps somewhat.
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Yes, in the wedding functions the eldest bhabhi is usually on the forefront and leads the rasams etc.
On the respect question, irrespective of whether she’s the wife of the eldest brother or the middle one or the youngest one, respect must be given to her, unless she hasn’t proven herself worthy of respect.
But there shouldn’t be any such rule that the eldest bhabhi gets the respect naturally just because she happens to be the wife of the eldest brother. It makes no sense and i find it unfair to the middle order and youngest bhabhis.