im in a difficult position right now…i have been depressed for last one year now n finding ways out of it…i see myself quitting my job and being away from my family for a while(going over to my khala’s ) for a weeek…
but i find it so hard to decide…i dun want to quit my job…n i dun feel like going there either..n i wonder if spending a week away will even help…
i have taken all of my annual leaves…im thinking of asking them for leave for a week and they can omit my salary for that…will that work?? is it sensible enough..
anyone help me find a way out of it..
Re: standing at the crossRoads
Dont quit your job! You might regret it in the long run! If you are actually depressed, why dont you go doctors? And get a doctors note you can show your work place. If you dont wanna go to your khala's why are you going?
If you've had all your Holiday weeks then i doubt they will do that tbh i dont know.
Why dont you just have a long weekend sat-mon and go somewhere to just relax?
Re: standing at the crossRoads
don`t quit your job, just take an unpaid leave and go out to clear your head, InshaAllah you will feel better, the only one who can get you out of this depression is urself, look at the positive things in life and stop living in the past :k:
I've been following your story though I haven't commented much on it. I've been through what I understand you're going through, though not as intense. I've always found that a (preferably extended) break from the usual routine is helpful.
Re: standing at the crossRoads
yeah , a short break wont really make alot of difference to your current mindset. Is there a chance you can speak to your manager about a short sabbatical ? … go away some other place , try to live a new life for the next few months … if you can find a good job there , take it , resign from the previous one… 
Re: standing at the crossRoads
LS
Your family is putting pressure on you to do the right things, but they don't give you right support.
This situation is going to get worst.
It all depends how you handle things in future. Chances are you will go wild. :)
Unless you find right kind of hubby. But good thing is its all part of growing up. :)
Going out of this cycle is good, don't go to khala's. Spend some alone time. If that's possible.
No need to worry about the job, You are 22!!
Re: standing at the crossRoads
Don't quit the job. Is there anything that gives you any enjoyment. You may be clinically depressed so see your doctor for anti-depressant drugs.
Re: standing at the crossRoads
Also try some vitamins. Some vitamin deficiencies can make you feel depressed.
Re: standing at the crossRoads
my family wants me to get back to my old self...be good..regular with prayers n they even think my job is not a necessity n i shud quit...they think its the work pressure that is hurting me...but ITS NOT..i dun want to quit my job..i want to find a meaning of my life..and have a purpose..and i need a break at the same timee...its been 5 years im going in the same loop...
yes i have seen myself going wild..but im still conscious enough to hold myself back...i know if i dnt work things out now...im going to be in a deep ****..
getting a husband is not as important as finding myself and being myself is...
i dun think i need to take any anti-depressants...
when i give myself time,exercise,take my vitamins and all i feel good abt myself..like my older self..
so now im TRYING TRYING n TRYING :)