Life in general and expectations from you change after marriage.
1- Is there anything you would rather share with your lifetime friend or close relatives than your spouse?
2- Does it depend also how long have you been married? A newlywed couple versus decades of marriage..should there be difference?
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1) jee.. spouse ki booraaeeyaaN
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I am sure every long relationship between two people gives rise to (almost) taboo topics within the relationship. It could be the stuff that the other person can't deal with/find it too difficult to or something. So, I am sure there could be stuff, depending on each relationship, that you feel more comfortable sharing with friends and other relatives.
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What else do you think girls do on a girls' night? :)
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it all depends upon the trust husband and wife has on each other.
What else do you think girls do on a girls' night? :)
No we don't...:D
Why don't you share some of those?
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So far there is nothing I have ever told a close friend that my husband doesn't know about...maybe the present I am getting him for his birthday....not even gossip about his family...he knows exactly what's on my mind. I don't know if that's good or bad but if I don't tell him something, I don't tell anyone else either. At least up to this point.
so true
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Whatever I tell anyone else, my begum knows it already. If there is something I dont want to let out, I dont even tell to my wife.
I cant tell if my wife does share something with others that I dont know if coz if she does, how an i supposed to know? :)
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If there is something you tell your "close friend" and not your hubby/wife, there's a problem in your relationship.
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Relax Gaia ji… not everything is so black and white.
My sisters are my close friends… I let out all my dil ki bharas in front of them. If I did that with hubby, he would just laugh at me or make fun of how I obsess about clean carpets and find his mozay throwing habit totally annoying. And yes he throws his mozay in my face 
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I can see where you’re coming from. And I guess there is a need for venting outside of the relationship. But it doesn’t work for me what so ever.
My mom always tells me, not to tell him everything because it can easily start a fight. But he’s my best friend so I can’t help it 
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If there is something you tell your "close friend" and not your hubby/wife, there's a problem in your relationship.
not really. true in many cases but does not hold for everyone. some people are just more comfortable discussing somethings with other than spouse and that does not mean there is something wrong in relationship. Its just that they are like that.
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^ Yes. There can be nothing wrong in relationship between spouses and still something can be discussed with someone else.
Isn't this the attitude where spouses feel 'smothered' by each other..and start thinking negative way for each other?
My mom tells me the same thing as well … but I’m the same as you! I can’t help but tell him everything that is on my mind and in my heart!