Re: Spouse naturally quiet and shy
he is just observing ... calculating ... making opinions ...he will talk and when he will talk .. we will see another post here "my hubby talk sssssssssssssssssoooo much what should i do?" :D
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so?
either you accept it as it is, tell your mother to deal with it, or nag him to bits until he gets so exasperated that he ends up swearing at you.
sheesh this is not even an issue 
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chillax girl this is not even an issue :k:
For her every tiny thing is an issue 
may be he is a cereal killer
lolzzz
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Deal with it and accept it. Thats how his nature is, nothing wrong with that. Not everyone can be like you:p.We all are different and have therefor different personalities.:@:
Give him a jolly good wallop with the baseball bat to ensure that he is killed off with one blow.
Then he definitely WILL have a good reason for being chup-chap.
lol I think your husband is going to have alot to contend with!
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Well if i dont like someone who ever it may be or ive jus had enuff of their ugly mugs, I wont talk or interact. Whoever it may be. I dont care. I dont wanna know. So maybe your hubby has had enuff of your family and jus wants to not ever see them again. NEVER KNOWWWWWWWWWWWWW!
Not very supportive answers you're getting! It reminds me of Pride and Prejudice. The strong, silent type is usually thinking deep thoughts. Like my hubby for instance. He has a very stressful job. So my hubby is often very quiet and in thought when around...anyone. My parents were visiting and noticed how quiet he was. They automatically thought that he didn't want them around. That maybe they were not welcome. So now they always ask me to first make sure my husband is ok with them coming.
No matter how much I tell them he's fine and he likes them, they're still very cautious. A quiet person can leave a very mysterious impression. You can't change people and their true personalities. But hopefully if you try to compensate for your hubbies lack of social skills, he can follow your lead. Try to lead conversation over to him. Ask him thought provoking questions when you're with guests and hopefully he'll open up.
its just the way he is, my hubby is very quiet around people he doesn't really know and chatty with those who he gets on with. unfortunately because he's quiet he often gets misjudged, and people assume that he doesn't like them but the truth is there is no way in the world that he will have common ground with certain relatives or people. Just be glad that your hubby is civil around these people, i would rather my husband be civil/quiet around people than be fake and over the top doing 'chaploosi' just to get accepted.
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I think it's pretty normal behavior. I have a couple of friends who would sit in our company for hours without saying a word! lol . But they always come when invited and want to be invited to every get together. Always on time too... but would just sit there and listen and give a few words reply when forced into giving an opinion. I love those friends. Interestingly their wives are big time chatter boxes.
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i think you, yourself should play an important part too, first of all, if its his nature, all (including your mother) should understand, secondly IF you feel, your family or people around are noticing his silence, you should try to get him in your conversation, for instance; at any sentence, asking his views, his suggestions, his YES or NO, just try to make him feel comfortable with his surrounding, and its only you who can do that, making sure he isn't noticing your intention.. it will surely help him to be a part of your gathering :) good luck :)
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awwww plz dun give the poor guy baseball bat treatment...plz....
nd so what if he's quite in nature....not his fault....!!
i guess, every mum will react in same way....!!
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i bet he's quiet coz he's dreaming of naked women. skinny ones.
divorce him asap.
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^:omg:
i bet he's quiet coz he's dreaming of naked women. skinny ones.
divorce him asap.
but then he will get the naked woman, skinny one. his punishment should be to NOT divorce ..that would be a perfect aazab :)
i bet he's quiet coz he's dreaming of naked women. skinny ones.
divorce him asap.
tussi gr8 ho , bowing to his majesty
i bet he's quiet coz he's dreaming of naked women. skinny ones.
divorce him asap.
LOL ... nadz has met her match
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oh goodness, nadzzz, do you really think its wise to have a fight with your husband becayse your mom misunderstood his quiet behaviour?
I'm a quiet person, overall. I'm more talkative toward people I'm comfortable with. In a group setting, I can sometimes be more reserved unless I know/feel comfortable with the members of the group.
And it annoys me when others FREAK out about quiet people. They think that something is wrong with the individual.....that they're worried......sad.......up to something, lol.
They can't seem to understand that there are introverted and extroverted personalities. One doesn't have to run their mouth incessantly to be okay/normal. I've noticed that sometimes people who are talkative don't think before they speak. They can be very tactless........no thought given at all to how their words might sound to others. Yes, I know we ALL are guilty of that. But some people are able to think for a moment......like picture how they'd come across to someone......whereas others don't.
Maybe it takes your husband time to feel comfy with people he has just met. Maybe he was tired that day or not particularly in the mood for socialization.
If you're that bothered by his lack of jabbering when there's company..........then you can attempt to open him by bringing up topics that you'd know he'd be interested in. Or you can ask him a question and kind of lead him into conversation with the guests.
If you know that NOTHING is wrong with your husband......then assure your mom that he's just an introvert and it takes him time to open up. You live with him......you know better than other members of your family. So, just because someone thinks that something must be seriously wrong............you shouldn't become insecure because of their assumptions because you're the one who knows him better.
Sometimes people's fears put doubts in our mind that something is truly wrong. It's just an opinion. If everything is fine......no need to get upset.....just move on.