How do you cope up with the situation when your Spouse spoils your mood unintentionally… He feels sorry for that too as soon as he realizes his mistake.
Do you get back to the mood as soon as he says you sorry or it takes you time to be fine!!
and yes, now THAT’S my story!! 
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First of all it was unintentional. He didn't do it deliberately and after seeing that you were hurt about it, he apologized. Not everybody can manage to let go of their ego and admit their mistakes/ apologize. As for how quickly you bounce back....that depends upon the offense and how serious it was in our eyes. It can also depend upon whether or not the other person is the kind to say sorry but has the habit of repeating the offense. With frequency forgiveness can wear thin.
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First of all it was unintentional. He didn't do it deliberately and after seeing that you were hurt about it, he apologized. Not everybody can manage to let go of their ego and admit their mistakes/ apologize. As for how quickly you bounce back....that depends upon the offense and how serious it was in our eyes. It can also depend upon whether or not the other person is the kind to say sorry but has the habit of repeating the offense. With frequency forgiveness can wear thin.
well no, it was nothing serious, but I have this habit, that once my mood is spoiled, it takes me time to get back to normal........ on the other hand, he wants, as soon as I say you sorry...you should be laughing and smiling and all that........which I cant..!! Its not that I dont value his concern, I accept the apology but as I said, it takes me time to get back to normal..
secondly........... how do you react when it happens to you :@:
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Depends on how serious the offense was for me, the other person's behavior, etc. Sometimes I try to resolve/ move on from it quickly....and other times it while take me a while to come around.
Depends on how serious the offense was for me, the other person's behavior, etc. Sometimes I try to resolve/ move on from it quickly....and other times it while take me a while to come around.
And If other person don't want to Accept their mistake?
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Depends on how serious the offense was for me, the other person's behavior, etc. Sometimes I try to resolve/ move on from it quickly....and other times it while take me a while to come around.
hm........
well in my case, it wasnt offensive and was unintentional totally............ but I got hurt....maybe because I am sensitive :(
Don’t worry, houta hai, hum sab insan hain her waqt aik mood Mai nahi reh sakte 
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And If other person don't want to Accept their mistake?
Should relationships be destroyed because the other person is not compensating in the manner we want them to? Let's say for example a sibling or spouse finds it very difficult to say "sorry" ....(which is the compensation you desire).....and doesn't do so, would you end the relationship? Maybe that person tries to make up in other ways (be it attempts at conversation, helping you out, etc)....and that can be seen as their "jhukna." It may not be jhukna in the way you imagined, but it's their indirect way of doing so. You can take this into consideration and decide to meet them halfway by showing them that you've moved on.....or you can choose to persist in having it your way and possibly hurt the relationship.
There are also people who find it easy to say sorry, but repeat their mistakes. How much weight does that carry? I think its important to be able to humble yourself and apologize, but what's even more necessary is making a sincere effort to avoid the same mistakes in the future.
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^true said!
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y spouseless ppl reply here? 
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I have this habit, that once my mood is spoiled, it takes me time to get back to normal........ .
I'm the same way. But it also depends on what exactly happened to spoil my mood. Sometimes I'll get over it in minutes. But there are times when it takes me a few days to get over. I rarely lash out.....most of the time I get quiet and shut down when my mood is spoiled & want to be left alone.
By now, my hubby is quite aware of my personality. He recognizes when he needs to give me space and realizes that for HIS own piece of mind, its best to leave me alone while I "recover". I can be VERY nasty when pushed to the limit and he has learned that the hard way. So yea....these days if he does something to upset me (which is usually unintentional), he apologizes but doesn't pressure me to "get over it".
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wow, you are so MEeeeeeeeeee.. 
I like to be left alone too in such a situation 
verna… 
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LOL…I have no doubt that you can be just as feisty as me when you want to be (and that’s not a bad thing!). :halo:
So in my case, my hubby learned the lesson on his own. If your hubby isn’t picking up the hint, and IF this does cause issues often…then you want to consider talking to him when you two are on good terms. Simply explain to him that needing that extra time/space is part of your personality and you can’t turn off your feeling with a on/off switch. And if the talking doesn’t help…then you may want to consider some other means of getting through to him… 
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Lol, yeah, I think I need to..
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coming from the one who's constantly on eggshells and apologizing for unintentionally spoiling a mood (which seems to be spoiled by nearly everything), there will come a time when he wont' give a crap about your mood and nakhray.
The fact that your spouse realises that u have been upset should be good enough reason for you to improve your mood. Be thankful, many people don't even realise when they have upset their nearest and dearest.
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Agreed with Desire007; not many realize that they have hurt their closed ones. But I think if your spouse/partner is being sorry & on top of that he/she tries to rejuvenate you, then it becomes too easy to smile and make your mood better.