Islam does not support a joint family system as it exists in Paki households. Where there is no Parda from ghair mahram men and everyone hangs out together. However, it is not correct to say that Islam does not support the joint family system, because as as long as you keep you parda it is o.k. I live with my parents, my wife/kids–and my brother who is also married with kids. I have never seen my Phabis hair-our conversation begins with Salaam and ends with Wa salaam..My brother and I both have keys to the house but we never use them because we have to ring the bell/or knock and wait for everyone to be ready for us (put on hijab-cover up etc) and then open the door for us. The kitchen has a separate curtain on it and I can’t go there without knocking and getting clearance. While we are at work, our wives hang out with our mom/dad//and when we come back we separate in to our sections. The no joint family thing is more of an arab thing than an Islamic thing, but it’s true that the way it exists in desi families is definitely not allowed. Living separately is the right of the wife but remember if you are going to use Islam as an excuse then remember that Hazrat Aisha had 1 room and it was so small that Prophet SAW would have to ask her to move while reading tahajjud so he can make sajda. So those women who want to use Islam as a reason to separate, then please also accept something similar to Hardhat Aisha’s room. Also if joint family system was not allowed in Islam then we wouldn’t have this famous hadith..
read this hadith and tell me if the son was living with the parents or using skype to check up on them..
Allah’s Apostle said, "While three persons were traveling, they were overtaken by rain and they took shelter in a cave in a mountain. A big rock fell from the mountain over the mouth of the cave and blocked it. They said to each other. 'Think of such good (righteous) deeds which, you did for Allah’s sake only, and invoke Allah by giving reference to those deeds so that Allah may relieve you from your difficulty. one of them said, 'O Allah! I had my parents who were very old and I had small children for whose sake I used to work as a shepherd. When I returned to them at night and milked (the sheep), I used to start giving the milk to my parents first before giving to my children. And one day I went far away in search of a grazing place (for my sheep), and didn’t return home till late at night and found that my parents had slept. I milked (my livestock) as usual and brought the milk vessel and stood at their heads, and I disliked to wake them up from their sleep, and I also disliked to give the milk to my children before my parents though my children were crying (from hunger) at my feet.
So this state of mine and theirs continued till the day dawned. (O Allah!) If you considered that I had done that only for seeking Your pleasure, then please let there be an opening through which we can see the sky.’ So Allah made for them an opening through which they could see the sky.
I am going to take a guess here and say that the man lived with his wife and kids with his parents.
Here are more for fun..I think “dutiful” goes beyond calling them on EId.
I heard Abi Amr 'Ash-Shaibani saying, “The owner of this house.” he pointed to 'Abdullah’s house, “said, 'I asked the Prophet 'Which deed is loved most by Allah?” He replied, ‘To offer prayers at their early (very first) stated times.’ " 'Abdullah asked, “What is the next (in goodness)?” The Prophet said, “To be good and dutiful to one’s parents,” 'Abdullah asked, “What is the next (in goodness)?” The Prophet said, To participate in Jihad for Allah’s Cause." 'Abdullah added, “The Prophet narrated to me these three things, and if I had asked more, he would have told me more.”
Allah’s Apostle said thrice, “Shall I not inform you of the biggest of the great sins?” We said, “Yes, O Allah’s Apostle” He said, "To join partners in worship with Allah: to be undutiful to one’s parents.