are these uncontrollable human feelings?
why do some people feel that this will help them gain something?
how can they be intercepted when someone is deeply influenced by these and spits out curses, wishes bad, or in general is wicked and snide to the person who happens to be the target of all that spitefullness, grudge or jealousy.
chime.
Re: spitefullness, grudge and jealousy
I think the feeling itself is uncontrollable....if it happens, it happens.......however, what is controllable is how you react to it, once you realized the presence of that emotion: and the way you cope with it, determines whether it will grow stronger, or subside
Re: spitefullness, grudge and jealousy
These are all negative emotions which arise mainly from fear and insecurity. If you are not afraid, you will have no need to be spiteful or be jealous. The person who is the target of these emotions should do their best to ignore them. After all if one does not react, the person who is spiteful will eventually give up as he will find it frustrating. Its difficult not to react, but does put the spiteful person off at some point.
Re: spitefullness, grudge and jealousy
I agree aly-sam. absolutely correct.
also, people have to over come their doubts. anything thought up in a state of doubtfulness and half-hearted effort to seek the truth, makes it that much more difficult to understand that inner weaknesses like jealousy and envy lead to nothing but one's own misery and a sense of isolation.
it is also true that to get respect, one has to genuinely be respectable & gaint respect.
dushi
Re: spitefullness, grudge and jealousy
I think if such emotions exist, then naming them negative won't serve the purpose. What we can do is to channel them in positive directions, like in Arts, Literature. Since there are all kinds of people so there should be all kinds of ways of living.
The delimma of modern life is in the unification of everything. Everything seems to be so similar to the other. Life is missing diversity alot.
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There are some people who just seem to enjoy being spiteful lolz!
Re: spitefullness, grudge and jealousy
i think everyone has these feeling. Though it depends, some ppl like me who aspire not to have them, and control them at best, will still feel such things....but i think the difference is how you feel about such feelings.
if you realize that they are feelings you dont want to have, then ofcourse you try and curb them, if you cant control them, u let ithappen, let it pass and then think and act not while you are still feeling them.
but it really depends some ppl are oblivious to the fact that they feel this way, so obvioulsy no attempts to curb them and they act when they are still feeling this way. PPl like that scare me a bit, b/c they are a bit wicked..even if intentionally.
However i dont think anyone knowingly likes to be jealous...but that just my thinking ...only b/c they are such negative feelings.
my only sugesstion is if you are feeling them, to analyze them understand them and dont react on them, only b/c even when u think you are being wicked and letting yourself carry on with this emotion, you may think it will make u happy to be mean to another, but ultimatelyt eh only way u can resolve this bad feeling is if u look into yourself and then figure out why and try and control it.
if you are victim of such feelings, then i say to each thier own. I am generally not a victim, don't think ppl are particularly jealous of me .... i am fairly benign..:D . If they ever are, which is rare, well i am understanding, forgiving, and b/c i dont want ppl to be jealous of me, i just try and let ppl know what i have is not that great, and try to be humble.
i think its scary when ppl put u on pedestals, one b/c you can fall off, and two b/c its kinda lonely up there...i seems atleast.