Re: SPINOFF: Adoption Based on Pity
If I was a mom, I know I would love the adopted child with my full heart and effort, however I know I would also get a special joy from seeing my bio child having a 'jhalak' of my mom's smile or my husband's walk. I guess I could say "well it's possible that my child would have zero in common with me just like any adopted child" but when i ask myself, "would i ever want to willfully become sterilized?", my heart jumps, even though I know i could adopt at anytime!
So i feel like deep inside, since I wouldn't be ready to trade off my fertility in exchange for an adopted child...means that I do value a bio child. But LOGICALLY, I feel like I would give both kids the same consideration. but then why do i want a bio child? that means it IS important to me.
Think About it...would you want to marry a guy who was sterile? And have yourself be sterile as well? If yes, that means you see absolutely NO difference between a bio kid and an adoptive kid. If no, it means your own has a special place which adoptive cannot fill. However, I think it doesn't have to be a dramatic diff like people think...it can be like the difference between my love vs. my mom's love for my brothers.