I’ve seen that the current generation (myself included) will often splurge on a Spa trip or mani/pedi to compensate for our stressful way of living. Although it all starts out with $20 here and there the money spent on such activities often adds up.
Is this type of spending acceptable in times of economic hardships?
With children in the house?
My mother looks at me like I have 8 eyes if somehow god forbid she catches a nail salon reciept for facial reciept. And on goes the lecture of how in her day she never did things like that - her every dollar went towards us kids.
But I think it rooted in her a resentment towards being a mother.
I think its very important to keep your own sanity as well as the kids healthy.
This doesn’t mean that I should be spending half my paycheck on my splurges but doesnt also mean that I’m going to put ever single penny into a college fund.
Sally (hubs) agrees with me – he’s actually more of an advocate for it.
Men how do you feel about your wives spending this way? Women please share you’re own expierences.
But I think it rooted in her a resentment towards being a mother.
I think its very important to keep your own sanity as well as the kids healthy.
Men how do you feel about your wives spending this way?
Women please share you're own expierences.
Father told us "nothing in this world in more important then your health and well being. NO money and No relation"
So its simple you do what you got to do keep healthy/happy.
But If I get a chick from pak who don't understand money(like my siblings(spoiled brats)) THEN I am going to send her phat A$$ to work for like 2-3 months on a minimum wage job. So she know what money is.
Once she learns that she and me will live happily ever after.
PlayStaion: Girls who have worked in west are always better to hang out with. Not that I want to spend them money. but u know.. at least they can appreciate me spending it.
you know the saying "if mom isnt happy...no one is happy"?
it is so true! One must make themselves happy in order to make their family happy. If you arent taking measures to make yourself more relaxed, healthy and stress free...then how can you take care of your family?
There is nothing wrong with pampering yourself on occasions....so long as you know your spending limits. Not only will you benefit from it but your entire family will as well.
There are limits that my MOM and MIL will torrelate, understand and except.
A manicure and pedicure - no big deal
A DIOR Bag - um I don't think so.
I am not advocate of big spending and nor am I a big shopper but I think you should spend on your self and your passions in life whether they be travel, books, spas, music, movies or sports.
Kids are Money sponges - they always will need something - braces, study abroad programs, new technology so they can text 300 useless messsages a day.
But Njgal - if the kids are taken care of why not the Dior bag? Or atleast a D&B. And this whole thing about how much they will tolerate - well h3ll who are they to tolerate me? Aren't we adults, shouldn't we be spending as we please?
Angel eyes -- I love your saying.
Because I find its so true, when I'm more relaxed and taken care of its like my son can sense it and he's in a happy mood too. :)
Aren't we adults, shouldn't we be spending as we please?
Oh dear - our parents and parents in law have a total different perspective of life. They struggled to make their lives here and some of what is necessary in our hectic days and lives seems very LAVISH to them
I don't try to make them understand. I just don't tell them.
Everything in my house is $10 because that's what they can stomach.
Spending money in limits is ok, i am agree with njgal. but its also ok that for our health and happiness we can spend money, but if some thing is not so neccessary to buy then i think its ok to avoid that.
With kids mom always want to spend them more than theirselves.
Muniya, we live a different life now. We are somehow even required to look top nosh for work.. if not work, for the hubby :)
My hubz asks me himself to go out and get a facial or massage if he thinks im really rundown..
I ask my mum to go get a facial too and she thinks im crazy... actually she's had bad experience, not to mention an accident so now she reckons whatever she does to her face, wont make any use.. khair thats another story
but, i say, if u can afford it... if u have the time, then go for it. And if you want to get a dior bag.. or a LV, then just get it
i didnt get a $30 cardigan i saw yesterday and now im spewing! I so needed it...
you know the saying "if mom isnt happy...no one is happy"?
it is so true! One must make themselves happy in order to make their family happy. If you arent taking measures to make yourself more relaxed, healthy and stress free...then how can you take care of your family?
There is nothing wrong with pampering yourself on occasions....so long as you know your spending limits. Not only will you benefit from it but your entire family will as well.
My husband doesnt have a problem with me spending money, he doesnt even look at the bills. Likewise, I don't have a problem with him spending money but I do check the bills :).
Our parents dont care what we spend money on as long as we can take care of ourselves, be happy, and save enough for investments, children, future, etc.
I think its important to treat yourself every so often...daily stresses of life these days make it necessary. We have school, work, home, kids, husband and of course keeping up with the bills. It feels great to push it out of your mind, open up a gossip magazine and have someone make you feel pretty.
In times of economic hardship, its okay to cut back on the designer bags and brand name accessories. However, even then...try to see if you can do something small for yourself. It helps us remember we are women and also need some attention at times.
Great thread.
Everything is $5/$10, or it was free (u know buy one get one free deal), or it was a gift from someone.
There’s a big difference between having money left over after all necesasry expenses and buying yourself a coach (sorry thats as high as ill go ) vs buying just ramen noodles and chef boyardee cz you decided to get your nails and hair done, complete with the kabab curls and 8 inch acrylics with spongebob painted on em (i know this was a song lyric, cant remember what song though)
Love love love facials and massages. I am obsessed with clear glowy skin so I will always spend lavishly on pampering myself, even when I have a football team. :)
It is necessary to pamper yourself once in a while.It makes us relax and our relax mood effects our children.:) And also if I am neglecting myself my hubs want me to go and get my nails done or facial.They don't want to see us being neglected.ALhamdulillah we are blessed.
you know the saying "if mom isnt happy...no one is happy"?
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True! Angel sister but over the generations our definition of "mom being happy" has changed perhaps 360 degrees. Before mothers were happy when their kids/husband was happy. They were happy when their kids/husband accomplished something not to say that this isn't the case any more rather we are fed to think that we can be happy with spa treatments or med/ped. Though i do agree, if you can afford and i mean AFFORD to do such things then theres no harm once ina while.
The main reason our mothers never did that because back then these things were not the norm, now days whether you're a teen or a house wife everyone goes for such things again because we have these services available to us.
) vs buying just ramen noodles and chef boyardee cz you decided to get your nails and hair done, complete with the kabab curls and 8 inch acrylics with spongebob painted on em (i know this was a song lyric, cant remember what song though)