Specifically for Unmarried boys

Just a question that often passes through my mind and makes me think about it more with joy than anything else. I day dream for hours and hours and it takes me very little time to reach a conclusion. Today I thought why not to listen to some different opinions on the matter.

I know that the best age for a guy to get married is around 28 plus. You can say its ideal age for him to get settled in his job, establish a home and life.

But I know, these days its not the case. So many guys, so many on GS, including me have this wild desire to be the man himself Sean Connery.

Now question: though you all want to get married, its natural desire, what would be like to spend all your time as a bachelor, hooking up with women randomly, jet setting across the globe and spending all your energy and desires on making sure you are happy with out any true worries or commitment?

Have you ever thought or prepared yourself for such a beautiful dream???

What if you have to live your life all alone, no whining woman at your heels. You can just kick out after a few hours, saying you are travelling…which you could very well be???

What if you will not get the chance to rejoice all those relations i.e. casanova, out as the life of the party, enjoy a few dozen someone specials, whom you can call you own as your desire and then get a new model, in your life which are obviously only attached to enjoying life to the fullest, fulfilling all your dreams and desires?

You can smell can’t you? The utter freedom, the pure hedonist satisfaction, but the most important question is are you ready to live that kind of life?

There is this reality that not all of us have to get married, some remain unmarried for their entire lives and throughly enjoy themselves, experiencing life to the fullest. I have seen some examples in my own family (Well not really but it goes with the other thread).

Ever thought about this issue in this way?

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Thats i choose the path of the fakirs!^ Dude who wouldn't want a life like that, most people do. You've seen Sex in the City and it clearly portrays how these men and women enjoy their lives without any commitment. But the truth is that when they are old they'll be alone, they wont have any kids to take care of them and chances are they'll be a old man or a woman living with a lot cats in a creepy old apartment. They enjoyed their lives but when the time comes for someone to take care for them nobody is there. People get married not only to have sex but to secure their future. When you are old your kids take care of you and you have a family that protects you. But this kind of life is for some time and all life is temporary. The life of the hereafter is what every one should be concentrating instead of enjoying and partying for a little while. As Allah says in Quran.* This earth will one day perish, but the face of your lord will shine forever*

Wishful thinking … :hinna:

I think all men who have tasted a little bit of independence and freedom do dream about it and doesn’t want to end it. Ahh … CM you shouldn’t have started this thread bro. I am already lost in the dreams of a perfect life. Why why why you are selling us fake dreams that if might brake, our innocent hearts won’t be able to survive :frowning:

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^ I think CM might be the devil trying to buy our souls in exchange for material pleasure! :):)

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CM,

The desire to live life to its fullest and experience things is within everyone. Some more then others.

The thing is, you arent experiencing life to its fullest every single moment of every single day. There is only so much jet-setting you can do and so many jungles you can explore. There are only so many women to be had...even the nicest ones leave after you start to look like a prune.

Reality is, life is NOT all about marriage and kids. Marriage itself is not all about procreating the quickest way possible as our desies like to believe. Its about making sure you have someone who loves you in all of your wrinkly greatness. Its NOT your only goal but it is nice to have.

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Well..... back in Pakistan, when I first left home for studying in another city, I rented out an appartment and enjoyed my stay for 4 years totally independant. Then I moved abroad and lived free and independant for some more years. By the grace of Allah, I visitd a lot of countries, met a lot of people (though I didn't do any hanky panky:) ) and enjoyed life.

However, after spending 10 years of living alone (in total), enjoying freedom and doing whatever I wanted (within Allah's hudood), I have finally come to the conclusion that theres nothing more sweet than marrying someone and spending time together. I got married recently, and though her visa is being processed, I just can't wait for her to come and live with me.

There comes a time in life, when you want someone to be there permanently for you. Trust me, after all's been said and done, it really matters, if theres someone to pray for you, to be there for you..... someone who loves you. And Gfs I doubt will come anything close to what a wife can be.

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Some unmarried women think this way too. :)

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Enjoy the life as much as you can and when you think there is nothing to enjoy then get married and start living a life with full of problems.

I don't have any wish to get married as its horrible to stuck at home and leave the friends ....

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When you go to be every night you are still alone.

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Loneliness has nothing to do with being married or unmarried, it's in your own head.

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yup .. i agree

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who said anything about Loneliness?

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some people are so annoying.

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What happened ?

I Think one should get married at the age after 28, and as soon as possible. no matter what you say, a steady relationship is desired by most, and you can enjoy your life a lot in that sense. life is not all about sex. wilt chamberlain had supposedly, by his own account, had sex with 20,000 women. yet at the end he said,

you also want to have kids and in the pakistani context that is not possible without having a wife. plus even if you can have kids with a person outside of wedlock, they still need both sides of the parents for a balanced outlook on life. meet some people who have had single parents and you will understand.

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If you want a life of sin and don't care for akhira, sure.

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If you stick with one girl, there will be a time: you will be sitting next to her watching ur grand kids play. You will look at each other and smile for all the years you two spent together.

For that one moment i choose to trash this mouj masti life and even though there is no guarantee that this day will come in my life yet here i am sitting and thinkin abt that day and smiling. It has its own charm, u cant imagine anything this beautiful with any women if u choose to go 1 night stands all life long.

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^^ awww that is beautiful!

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^ Thanks and nice signature :)

good thinking aqeel!.. :lifey: