Speaking up

[BadPerson]

Re: Speaking up

@Sara516

You’re standing up for your wife against your parents–you couldn’t have chosen a more appropriate nick! :k:

*what? too mean?

its nothing to be proud of, I still consider my mom first. Same applys to my wife for her, her parents come first and than me. However its not matter of who comes first, its rather who is being unfair. Everyone can be right or wrong but a head of the house shld refrain from unnecessary comments.

@Ashy2010

BadPerson. Your story is really strange. Yours is an arranged marriage. Still your parents don’t likeyour wife (according to you). Normally, I have seen rifts between MILs and DILs but fathers in law are usually very supportive of DIL and they do not engage in family politics. If fact, most of the DILs I have seen have a very warm, cordial and friendly relationships with their FILs. So your case is an exception.

Here we Guppans have concluded that we give advices on hearing just one side of the story. Are you sure you and your wife are always right? Are you sure you and your wife have not done anything wrong which have made your father like that? Was your father behaving the same way with you before your marriage or you have seen this behaviour only after your marriage?

You need to do self analysis and self accountability to know the reason behind your father’s attitude and then only you can solve this problem.

It is the weirdest case am witnessing, usually FILs support DILs coz they realizes she is someones daughter too and show extra love so she feels like its her on home. At points My dads claims all good things but at times he looses it. I like this the best option so far and thats what i plan to do. Thanks DECENT

@Decent_6Chora

Islam ask us to stand up against wrong and if that wrong is one of the parent, you should speak up but at the same time, Islam ask us to be polite with parents. So formula is speak-up politely.