Re: Speaking up
You will need to take a look at the broader picture. Why is that your wife has a bad image? If its because you had a love marriage, then I think you and your wife will bear all this for life. If the bad image is because of one particular incident, you can clear things up with your dad regarding that incident. Small issues and arguments can be because of one major cause. You might need to look for that cause. Try to find out why your dad does not feel the same as he feels for other DILs. Discussing in a polite tone with parents is permissible in Islam and you can convey your concerns to your dad but in a manner that you do not lose respect for him. Perhaps you can convey your concerns through your mom or any other brother/ sister with whom your dad is more closer.