Speaking Up vs Keeping Your Mouth Shut

[Captain_Obvious]

Re: Speaking Up vs Keeping Your Mouth Shut

@khattichic

The person in question is my khala’s damaad, married to my first cousin. We are a very tight knit family, with a lot of interaction. Within our khandaan, there are varying schools of thougth and levels of religious practice. For example, my husband and I recently moved in to a new home, prior to our closing, at a family get together, someone casually asked us if we were planning on holding a quran khaani or something after we moved in. My husband answered “haan, kuch tho karlainga, inshallah”…even though he and I generally do to hold khatams or engage in fatihas etc ourselves, it was more about being polite to the elder who posed the question…bassssss…that very night, this person sent a mass email to the ENTIRE family about how to NOT engage in such biddah’ti practices blah blah blah…" because the Prophet SAWS never did such things…but here’s the kicker…this man not only encourages, but himself buys his wife revealing clothing, sleeveless and backless sari blouses etc…where is his deen then? Sometimes I’m really at a loss to keep from questioning his logic. Hence the purpose of this thread…when do you keep quiet vs speak up and questions someone’s hypocricy?

Ah I see. How often does he do stuff like that (mass email thing)? Is it limited to something like that or is there anything more to it? I can see it can be a nuisance, but I wouldn’t be bothered by it if that’s the extent of it. Though I suspect there is quite a bit more to it than that seeing that it’s gotten you to write a topic about dealing with it.

Otherwise, my way of dealing with it is to take the good and leave the bad that anyone gives you. I’ve seen the other side of the coin, where people who don’t even pray, fast, pay zakaat and make excuses to not go for hajj will lecture others on Islam says this and Islam says that.