sometimes when he’s doing something really dangerous like shaking the tv (even though its wallmounted and won’t fall on him, its still a big thing and he could smack himself in the face with it), my instinct is to yell out “no!” just before i go grab him. he doesn’t seem to hear the yell though because there’s no visible change in his behaviour or expression. is that normal? is he not registering that a raised voice means “listen to me!” or “look out!”? there are no problems with his hearing Alhamdulillah, but he just doesn’t react to loud tones. when he was younger, he’d laugh at me 
but there’s nothing now, and its not like i’m screaming at him all day long so he’s immune to it. he also won’t come if i call out his name loudly. so i don’t know now… i’m a wee bit concerned. do kids that age just not respond to certain levels of noises? although, having said that, he’s scared of the vacuum cleaner so he clearly is hearing that noise.
Re: speaking loudly to a 14 month old and getting no reaction
If he is too busy analyzing something, he will ignore you even though he's listening to you. He also doesn't want to acknowledge you because you're coming in the way of his discovery process.
Nothing to worry about. Just go lift him up and make eye contact. He will wiggle and scream. But hug him, cuddle him and when you get his attention, tell him, honey babe, don't do that, you'll get hurt!
Re: speaking loudly to a 14 month old and getting no reaction
Kids can hear certain pitched voices which us adults can't however, how he understands the tone of that noise could be translated differently for him. I think he simply doesn't understand it. Kids learn in different ways. Maybe he is more of visual or kinetic learner. To put your mind at ease you could possibly take him to an Audiologist to be on safe side?
Re: speaking loudly to a 14 month old and getting no reaction
That is good advice however I feel a raised voice must always get attention whether it is acknowledged or not. Anyone would stop and look or accept it. God knows… :halo:
Re: speaking loudly to a 14 month old and getting no reaction
hrm, ok. i'll look into the audiologist bit. and yes, you might be right in that he doesn't get it yet...
niks, i'll try what you said too- right now, i pick him up and move him away from the TV but i don't reinforce the "no" bit.
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slightly off topic but how else should/would you discipline a child that young, other than distracting them and moving them away physically?
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Re: speaking loudly to a 14 month old and getting no reaction
Well you're telling him that the "act" isn't good for him not that he isn't a good boy for doing what he's doing.
And CEO1, yes I think a raised voice must get attention, but he sounds like a smart kid to me who probably hears the sound and gives a wicked little smile in his head saying "ma, just leave me alone would ya!"
:D
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^ you know, that might very well be it, because i looked up symptoms of hearing impairments and he doesn't have any of them Alhamdulillah, so i might have a smart ass on my hands :p
CEO1, what is kinetic learning?
Re: speaking loudly to a 14 month old and getting no reaction
^ lol at smartass... kids are a lot smarter than we think...
sometimes they genuinely dont hear us because they are so immersed into what their discovering or doing... other times they can hear us and just play the "Oh I didnt hear you" line... Ive experienced both with munchkin..
Also, I think sometimes they hear "No' from us so often that they dont care about it anymore...
Re: speaking loudly to a 14 month old and getting no reaction
Usually, kids do react even if non verbally but he could be just too busy in whatever he was doing. Does he respond to his name when he's not too busy? I would get hearing exam done even though it seems fine.
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^ yeah, he responds when i call his name out if he's just sitting around.
Re: speaking loudly to a 14 month old and getting no reaction
our kids are in the same stage and I tell u, there are times she doesnt responses too, especially I call her to me, she will go the other way. but she is chaalako and will do it purposely.
kids this stage really dont understand, that a no is a no, he might take it as a game or is so busy to comprehend it.
mines loves hanging on the edge of th sofa and when I say no, u will fall, I get a smile, so I have to go to her and get her out of the situation. sigh
hang on sgc, more to come our way. :D
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Peace somegroovychick
He is making himself busy ... or trying to get you to react ...
When he does what he does ... Instead of shouting - you can indeed do as Sister Niksik said, which is go and pick him up ... but if you want him to listen to you by speaking to him ... try this:
Speak firm but as though you have just found something really amazing and you are amazed ... "Grab something that he may like and say "Look {his name} look what I have ... it's really cool ... can you do this ... ??? "
And you will find that will grab his attention more than shouting ... and it will also mean you may not need to get up and pick him up physically from that situation ...
Re: speaking loudly to a 14 month old and getting no reaction
SGC: If I were you, I would bend myself and make my eye contact level same to 14 month kid and hold his both hand in my hands and ask him that dont do it, it could harm you. 
Re: speaking loudly to a 14 month old and getting no reaction
I think he found the ignore button. Our 2.5 year old found it over a year ago, and its still firmly pressed.
Re: speaking loudly to a 14 month old and getting no reaction
My doctor calls it selective listening........they will hear wht they want to, there is nothing wrong with him but if you still want o be sure ask your doctor to refer you for the hearing test. Its a pretty simple 15 minutes test. I did these tests with my son because his day care complained that he wont listen when he is engrossed in his favourite activities.
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^ yeah, he responds when i call his name out if he's just sitting around.
Then he seems like a typical toddler boy...I wouldn't worry. Try the tip that psyah gave, it has worked with my son..whenever he's busy I call out his name firmly and say 'Look!' and direct him to something better and safe...instead of screaming his name try to distract him to another activity!