Sometime's i really want a divorce.

[Masooma]

Re: Sometime’s i really want a divorce.

@Nilu

Shikra: No t here is no reason behind this joh unke zubaan pey aajatey hai wohi
baq dete hai. And i know divorce is not a solution but i try everything.
I try to talk to my phuphi but she was like haan sarey mardon aise kartey hai actually
my sis in law said that and my Phuphi agreed with her.
Phir mei kiss se baat karoon? Sometimes i wonder why im in this Biatch world.

Sinner: Yeah if he goes to far phir mei bhi agey se 100 jawaab deti hoon.
To Phatto & everyone else read what i said to Shikra.

Tell him…one of the signs of a munafiq is jab wo gussay mai ho to apni zubaan pai kaabou na rakhay… (other two are, when he speaks he lies, when he is trusted with amaanat, to khayanat karay)

and i donno which one but someone upthere said if her husband did all this wo phir bhi uskai saath rehti…

i think it was attia…mairi pyaari behan i feel what your saying but yar this is UNISLAMIC aproach. Kaafi loog being oppressed ko sawaab ka aur naik kaam samajhtay hai..no doubt its good to be patient and be calm…magar is had tak bhi nahi kai koi hadd hi paar karday…

Talaq koi Gali nahi…na hi GHALEEZ cheez hai..its a HALAL CHEEZ…no doubt Allah ki sabse na-pasand cheez hai magar…magar is hadith ki bakground pata karo then you will know…ye Allah ki na-pasand tab hai jab koi be-waja apni nafsi khuvahishaat ki waja sai apnay hum-safar sai talak karay…

Keep in mind…Hadhrat Umar divorced one of his wife after he became muslim…and she was then married to the son of Hadhrat Abu bakr…meaning kai she was not a bad woman etc coz then why would son of Hadhrat Abu bakr marry a lady whome Hadhrat Umar (rz) divorced???

Hadrat zainab was divorced by the mu bolay baitay of Hadhrat Muhammad (pbuh)…and she was then married to prophet Muhammad (pbuh). She is the ummul momineen (mother of the believers)…meaning among the BEST WOMEN of ALLLLLL TIMES…

agar unho nai talaq lainai mai koi harj nahi samjha…GIVEN THE REASON IS FISABILILLAH…meaning kai na-jaiz dhulm…aur zulm(dhulm) sirf maarnay peetnay ko nahi kehty…zubaan sai bhi dhulm hota hai jab ik musalmaan dosray ki zubaan sai mehfooz na ho

My sincere advice to the sister who originally posted the msg…forum is not the right place to resolve this complicated Issue but as your sister in Islam…my sincere advice is that try to speak to an elderly person whome you trust in your family..and someone whome ur husband RESPECTS ALOT…and try to resolve…

If that doesnt work..then tell your husband in the nicest manner that you care for him and want to work things out but cannot do it all alone and need his help. Tell him you want to respect him and be respected…you both are eachothers libas as Allah calls them in Quran. So he is naked (humiliated/embarrssed) without u…and you without his support/love and care.

Remind him of good times you guys had…tell him sweet things…

remember sister…prophet muhammad (saw) said…exageration is allowed in three cases …and one of the cases was/is “between husband and wife”

so tell him you love him more than he can imagine…exagerate on sweet things…
pamper him…

when Allah created Adam and he was sad and lonely, Allah created EVE…and in a hadith it says…the first thing Hadhrat Adam did when he saw Hadhrat Hawwa was…he smiled!!! WE women are their weakness…but only if we realize it and work it right…

Use what Allah gave you to save your marriege…

he will be your slave…but make sure you enslave him only fisabilillah…

[Janwar]

Re: Sometime's i really want a divorce.

Nilu baji - - - ghalat baat serf app ke mujhay yah lagi kay app appnay ghar ke problem duniya mai suna rahe hai . . jo kay boohat ghalat baat hai . . . . . app kay ghar ke problem hai or ghar mai rakhay tu acha hai . . . sab yaha hasnay walay hai yah mazak uranay walay . . . belive me . . . . . . . . . . . . khair app kay husband ghalat kartay hai un ko sumjhaie nah kay duniya kay samnay laa kar rakh day yah sab baatay :(

[Ajnabi4ever]

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@Nilu

Coz my husband habbit is the same wohi gandi galiyaa n punjabi mein
muje dete hain about my mom and other bad words.
I cooked and he said to me ap jo tumne pakaya hai woh khud khalena
what the HELL !! I cooked for him and now he say this to me.

He is very right and my sympathies are with your husband. You stay all the time on GS for nothing and try to cook things instantly… Its your husband who brings stuff at home… what you add in it. Nothing simply miseries. Secondly, you mentioned that he uses loose language.. Dear clap needs two hands. Dont try to pose ‘Masoom Bachi’ and try to make your husband happy.. if you need janat (Second wife of your husband at home). Bechaara mara gaya… I salute your husband who is bearing this ‘fafa kuttni’ at home.

[parissenoor]

Re: Sometime’s i really want a divorce.

@Ajnabi4ever

He is very right and my sympathies are with your husband. You stay all the time on GS for nothing and try to cook things instantly… Its your husband who brings stuff at home… what you add in it. Nothing simply miseries. Secondly, you mentioned that he uses loose language.. Dear clap needs two hands. Dont try to pose ‘Masoom Bachi’ and try to make your husband happy.. if you need janat (Second wife of your husband at home). Bechaara mara gaya… I salute your husband who is bearing this ‘fafa kuttni’ at home.

you seem to be him:confused:

[Ajnabi4ever]

Re: Sometime’s i really want a divorce.

@Masooma

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My sister in Islam, Nilu has just mentioned a routine issue and you have given a long lecture on Talaq and its courses and discourses.

If she is wise she can resolve her matter on table or in bed.. if she is otherwise than contact me…

[Ajnabi4ever]

Re: Sometime’s i really want a divorce.

@parissenoor

you seem to be him:confused:

Well, I wish I could

[AnGeL_EyEs]

Re: Sometime's i really want a divorce.

im sorry to hear that he cusses at you...no matter who is at fault....no wife deserves to be cussed out by her husband. It's very jahil and disrespectful.

Was he upset with you about something? or does he just do that for no reason?

[Daagh]

Re: Sometime’s i really want a divorce.

@Janwar

Nilu baji - - - ghalat baat serf app ke mujhay yah lagi kay app appnay ghar ke problem duniya mai suna rahe hai . . jo kay boohat ghalat baat hai . . . . . app kay ghar ke problem hai or ghar mai rakhay tu acha hai . . . sab yaha hasnay walay hai yah mazak uranay walay . . . belive me . . . . . . . . . . . . khair app kay husband ghalat kartay hai un ko sumjhaie nah kay duniya kay samnay laa kar rakh day yah sab baatay

well said bro

[Ajnabi4ever]

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@AnGeL EyEs

im sorry to hear that he cusses at you…no matter who is at fault…no wife deserves to be cussed out by her husband. It’s very jahil and disrespectful.

Was he upset with you about something? or does he just do that for no reason?

No he was very happy when he said all the stuff to Nilu… Definately, she has done something wrong… No body gets pamper on petty things… Think about yourself. Do you???

[K_Khan]

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@Ajnabi4ever

No he was very happy when he said all the stuff to Nilu… Definately, she has done something wrong… No body gets pamper on petty things… Think about yourself. Do you???

gimme a break! don’t you know about how ppl behave back in Pakistan? its different, some men there really THINK its thier right to practice.
why don’t the lose thier temper the same way with thier sisters or mom or any other blood relative? or do they?

[Jal_Pari]

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what a jerk he is...Nilu do you work?? Some men actually think too much of themselves when they come home from work and can say and anything to wives. They think the jahil ganwar wife will just cook, clean and wait for him to come home and then he can take out all his frustration over her. I say you start working full time otherwise he won't realize this until he starts cooking himself. Seems like he has no respect for you. Just abiding him and cooking cleaning will change NOTHING.

[AnGeL_EyEs]

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@Attia

don’t even think about it nilu… i just hate the word divorce… you married the guy and** now wutever he does you have to live with it**…

so if he physically or emotionally/verbally abuses you or cheats on you and no matter how hard you try you just cant forgive him…you must live with it? I’m sorry and I totally say this with the utmost respect…that is completely insane. Just because you are married to a guy doesnt mean you have to live miserbly and put up with his abuse.

I dont advocate divorce or anything like that. I believe that one must try very hard to keep their marriage together and forgiveness is the key. However there are some marriages that are destined to fall apart. Only people that are insecure about themselves stay in a loveless or abusive marriage.

[AnGeL_EyEs]

Re: Sometime’s i really want a divorce.

@Ajnabi4ever

No he was very happy when he said all the stuff to Nilu… Definately, she has done something wrong… No body gets pamper on petty things… Think about yourself. Do you???

i agree MOST of the time people get upset for a reason…however there are some paindu jahil men that feel that is their right to disrespect their wives for no reason.

In Nilu’s case I dont know both sides of the story.

[AnGeL_EyEs]

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@Janwar

Nilu baji - - - ghalat baat serf app ke mujhay yah lagi kay app appnay ghar ke problem duniya mai suna rahe hai . . jo kay boohat ghalat baat hai . . . . . app kay ghar ke problem hai or ghar mai rakhay tu acha hai . . . sab yaha hasnay walay hai yah mazak uranay walay . . . belive me . . . . . . . . . . . . khair app kay husband ghalat kartay hai un ko sumjhaie nah kay duniya kay samnay laa kar rakh day yah sab baatay

GS is a e-duniya…sometimes people try to get away from reality to talk about their problems on here. This is their way to escape and let out their feelings…i dont see anything wrong with that. However. in the “real” world there would be something wrong with it. Anyway i suppose people view GS in different ways.

[Ajnabi4ever]

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@uncle_falker

gimme a break! don’t you know about how ppl behave back in Pakistan? its different, some men there really THINK its thier right to practice.
why don’t the lose thier temper the same way with thier sisters or mom or any other blood relative? or do they?

Well, Uncle, I believe in one thing that girl can make you or break you. If she is not wise than your life would be bitter like Bacardi. I have seen many cases around myself and in all thses cases women were wrong because of their sensitivity. Might be I am worng but its my understanding what I have written ao far.

[AnGeL_EyEs]

Re: Sometime’s i really want a divorce.

@Ajnabi4ever

Well, Uncle, I believe in one thing that** girl can make you or break you. If she is not wise than your life would be bitter like Bacardi. I** have seen many cases around myself and in all thses case women were wrong because of their sensitivity. Might be I am worng but its my understanding what I have written ao far.

it goes both ways.

[K_Khan]

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@Ajnabi4ever

Well, Uncle, I believe in one thing that girl can make you or break you. If she is not wise than your life would be bitter like Bacardi. I have seen many cases around myself and in all thses cases women were wrong because of their sensitivity. Might be I am worng but its my understanding what I have written ao far.

Ajnabi you know “taali aik haath se nahe bajte” A wiseman should control himself if he is stuck in such situation. Behaving like this doesn’t make things right, it only fuels the rage in other party, and end result is the REGRETS and accusations for thier inability to handle relationship in a civilised manner.

[AnGeL_EyEs]

Re: Sometime’s i really want a divorce.

@uncle_falker

Ajnabi you know "taali aik haath se nahe bajte" A wiseman should control himself if he is stuck in such situation. Behaving like this doesn’t make things right, it only fuels the rage in other party, and end result is the REGRETS and accusations for*their *inability to handle relationship in a civilised manner.

although there are some that manage to do so.

[K_Khan]

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@AnGeL EyEs

although there are some that manage to do so.

of course, its the SLAP which is often mistaken with Taali.

[Masooma]

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@Ajnabi4ever

My sister in Islam, Nilu has just mentioned a routine issue and you have given a long lecture on Talaq and its courses and discourses.

If she is wise she can resolve her matter on table or in bed.. if she is otherwise than contact me…

sorry ajnabi ji agar mairai lecture nai bore kiya

magar jiskai leeyai tha usnay shaid parha hi nahi…

aap beechmai kaha sai aagai…ajnabi 4 EVER?