Re: Something I can't quite get over..
you must thanks to ALLAH SWT that you didnt her real before it would be too late.
I personally think there is no need to respond her back. and if you see her again in your life just respond her formally.
anho would you mind letting the world, how she was perfect? and how did she able put up an act?
Re: Something I can't quite get over..
I am sure when you re-call your frustrations during that time spent with her, you would never want your heart to exprerience it again, even for a second. Better to delete her message and don't think about her even for a second. Any reply to her would mean that you are ready to fall trap to her tricks again, which she has been very good at, as you mentioned.
You are lucky to realize these facts quite early in your life, that too without causing yourself too much of mental or spiritual damage. There are people who keep betraying themselves by diving from one 'mirage' to another, but still their heart isn't able to qench the thurst it has developed through misuse of eyes, ears & brain.
Anyways, experience teaches one a lot. A Mo'min can't be tricked twice through the same trap. Its good that you have survived & learnt from your mistake. Even though you lost a bit of self respect (as you put it), still you are blessed with a lot of wisdom (MashaAllah), by the grace and mercy of Allah (swt). (As evident from your post).
*When the heart weeps for what it has lost, the soul smiles for what it has found. *
May Allah (swt) forgive our disobedience towards him and bless us with the strength to be able to protect ourselves from the evil plans of people who want to misuse us.
Re: Something I can’t quite get over..
Aaannnd Next! 
Re: Something I can't quite get over..
Ignore, move on. Block her email from your inbox and let her know you are doing that so she shouldnt bother contacting you.
Re: Something I can't quite get over..
get a hobby ..