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who is fat, wears glasses and has bad acne and scars has a possibility to find a rishta?

I has a friend and i am very worried about her .

Re: someone

i will marry her :) naam pataa bataayeN :)

Re: someone

Forget rishtas, this sort of thing requires a make-over for her own personal self-esteem.

I used to wear coke-bottle glasses, had severe acne, and subsequent scarring of the face (the 'rents should have taken me to a dermatologist, but noooo we didn’t have money) and I had the worst fashion sense.

I still have pretty bad fashion sense honestly, because I shop more for cost than style.

But anyway, get contacts. :k: You see better with them anyway, because with glasses, your peripheral vision is cut off.

Acne and scarring - my face has cleared up a lot over time just with proper face scrubbing, toning, and moisturizing. But she can see a dermatologist for fading creams and such. If the acne is really bad, she can get injections to calm it down, or antibiotics if it is bacteria-related.

Forget the whole rishtaa thing - these things should be taken care of for your own personal betterment.

If you have the money. Derm’s aren’t cheap these days to visit. Those barbie dolls want to charge muchos dineros for the simplest steroid injections. :rolleyes:

Re: someone

Oh and of course - make-up. That helps a lot.

PCG gave excellent advice but the portion quoted is best of all. Your friend should focus on herself and her happiness and self esteem...the rest will, Inshallah, fall into place.

There are even average to attractive looking girls that are finding it hard to find rishtas.

Confidence is important because it will reflect in your attitude and body language and it's always sexy. There are people who are physically attractive and have poor self-esteem......and others are turned off by that. So, while looks are important (won't deny that)......they're not the only consideration. I've seen heavier girls get married. Your friend will get married when it's meant to be. In the mean time, as PCG suggested, she needs to develop her self-esteem. If she feels good.....it'll show/radiate physically.

The above qualities that you've listed are not those that can't be solved. For example, .......many people prefer to wear glasses.....and they can look attractive on some individuals. If she's that bothered about the glasses.....then she can try contact lens. If she's afraid of wearing them.......practice can make her feel more comfortable.

Acne.......SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO many men and women struggle with acne...........even those that are neither overweight nor wear glasses. Get an appointment with a dermatologist as opposed to trying every single desi home remedy that won't work fast enough. A dermatologist can tell your friend all the available treatments and how effective they are (topical creams, antibiotics, chemical peels, laser therapy, etc.)

About the weight issue. What is causing the weight gain? Is it stress? Lack of activity? Perhaps a doctor can suggest tips. REGULAR exercise and eating healthy........and getting enough sleep............can help. Even lack of sleep can make one gain weight.

Wearing clothes/colors that flatter the figure. Wearing makeup that plays up positive features. Flattering hair cut.

^Implementing these changes can help........BUT.........what will make truly help is for her to value/believe in herself (if she doesn't already). And any changes she makes should be done for herself.

Re: someone

totally agree with PCG. with right tools she can carry off herself nicely. also she can emphasize on her strengths coz not everyone is after looks. she can develop or take advantage of any existing skills ppl look in a good wife or bahu.

Re: someone

As everyone said above, PCG pretty much covered abt wat ur friend needs to do. Its great advice. Ur friends needs to worry more abt how she feels than how some guy n his family are going to feel abt how she looks.

Lol what?

DHL her to me.. i'll give her a makeover and bill GS admin or the owner.

Re: someone

If Allah has reserved someone for her she will get her sooner or later :) it's all naseeb