countless times and on many many occasions, is diagnosed with a life threatening illness, would you forgive that person for every horrible thing they did in the past and care for them so they can gain the strength to fight the illness
or would it be too hard for you to forgive/forget b/c of how much damage they did to you?
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**i'll forgive but NOT forget. i'll always be cautious of that person...there is a famous saying in Farsi which goes like this:
aazmooda raa aazmoodan jehl ast
[aazmaaye huye ko aazmaanaa jihaalat hai]**
Re: Someone close that was quite cruel to you
Probably forgive as I don't hold grudges anyway. I've never been in that situation though.
Re: Someone close that was quite cruel to you
countless times and on many many occasions, is diagnosed with a life threatening illness, would you forgive that person for every horrible thing they did in the past and care for them so they can gain the strength to fight the illness
or would it be too hard for you to forgive/forget b/c of how much damage they did to you?
i forgive people for whatever they did to me (but not my immediate family). That is my life long rule, and it will stay same.
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So you are harder on your family than compared to strangers?
Re: Someone close that was quite cruel to you
So you are harder on your family than compared to strangers?
i missed the word "not for my family"
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if they worded their last will and testament just right, sure i forgivez them
Re: Someone close that was quite cruel to you
countless times and on many many occasions, is diagnosed with a life threatening illness, would you forgive that person for every horrible thing they did in the past and care for them so they can gain the strength to fight the illness
or would it be too hard for you to forgive/forget b/c of how much damage they did to you?
hmm cant say anything since i have never been in such situation.
but i guess i will help that person as god will give me the reward.
it will be different if it involves my family (as to that person has hurt my family)-in their case i will consult them as to what should be the next step.
Re: Someone close that was quite cruel to you
countless times and on many many occasions, is diagnosed with a life threatening illness, would you forgive that person for every horrible thing they did in the past and care for them so they can gain the strength to fight the illness
or would it be too hard for you to forgive/forget b/c of how much damage they did to you?
I would forgive......but forgetting is another issue.
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I know it doesn't always happen...but I think the thought of death can sometimes humble people and bring about a sense of empathy and compassion...even if your'e not crazy about the individual.
I think forgiveness, just by itself, is a big thing. And if you actually take care of the person....I think you're going above and beyond...so more power to you.
It's hard to say what I'd do as I'm not in that situation. Also has to be considered if the offender even wants you to take care of them.
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I think of it this way; when they had power over me, they chose to exercise it with cruelty. If now I have power over them, then it's unlikely that I'll use it in the same way. Besides, sometimes forgiveness is the best revenge.
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Forgive him/her IFFFFF he/she is really suffering from some illness. I said IF , coz I have been there. Someone told me he was suffering with Cancer and it was a lie. He lied to gain my sympathies coz in this way he could come closer 
Forgiveness is one of biggest virtues. it cleans your heart and soul. They say “To err is human, to forgive is divine”. Just forgive for the sake of Allah.
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definitely forgive, it helps us rid of grudges and just feel better within ourselves.
we answer to allah. we want allah to forgive us for every wrong we have ever done..so who are we not to forgive
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Someone has really harmed me and has done horrible things to me and my family and I can never ever forgive no matter how sick he is .
If it was a friend or someone like that forgiveness can be considered but I won't forgive someone who was a family and even then he did horrible things to me. That's the way I am ......I am not that kind & humble.