chodhry, webMD.com is a good source of information...it has tons of articles on a variety of health issues. check it out!
well i should not take it as an attack on my ‘mardangi’ 
just confused did I ask anything regarding any health problem?
anyway! thanks for the link, will check it out. n u plz read the post once again. mainly I am seeking answers from married ppl. 
First Night Sex
First night sex in a couple's life is always filled with anxiety, nervousness, hesitation and there are many questions which creep up in the back of your mind but with proper guidance and information you can make your first night memorable. For many people, the first time is quite unpleasant. If it is an arranged marriage then it will be very much difficult to open up and be sexually motivated on the first night itself but just remember one thing - sex is not at all important on the first night, get to know each other better and take it easy. You can also begin with touching and kissing and exploring each other but have sex only if you are ready for it and you are comfortable. Sex under pressure is no good and it leads to bitterness and disappointments. Make sure that both of you understand each other and respect one another's feelings and desire's. However for a couples, who know each other, first time is easier since, you know each other's likes and dislikes, and are more comfortable with each other.
Some women might have pain and bleeding during insertion because the hymen breaks. Men might have premature ejaculation. These things happen because it's the first time your body experiences such emotions and extreme passion but with time, all these will settle down. But you can always make your first time really special and cherish it all your life.
Following are a few questions that bother you:
Will it hurt the first time? Will I bleed?
This is the most common question that girls ask. And the answer is "yes" you might bleed and it will hurt a little when you have sexual intercourse for the first time. But isn't it the truth that behind every happiness there lies little pain. The bleeding usually occurs because the girl has a hymen, which breaks the first time she has sexual intercourse. Sometimes a girl might already have broken her hymen as a result of playing sports, doing strenuous exercise or horse riding. However with the right touch and the right partner, you should be able to enjoy your first time without pain. Take your time, do not force yourself, use a lubricant if necessary, and guide him through. Tell him when it feels good and when it hurts.
*Am I ready for sex? *
This is also another question, which bothers you, and you feel that may be it is not the right time or maybe you should wait but you are not sure. If you think that you are not sure then you need not force yourself into doing it coz then you will only hurt yourself more. There are many ways in which you can give and receive sexual pleasure without having sexual intercourse. For some people giving each other massages, kissing and hugging can be very passionate and can be more fulfilling than sexual intercourse. Therefore what is important is to be comfortable in each other company and not to be pressurized into having sex when you don't really want to. Once you think that you are ready then go ahead and do it. And believe me this time it will really be fulfilling and memorable.
*How do I have "good" sex? *
For this what is most important as discussed above is being comfortable and relaxed in each other's company and wanting to have sex without any compulsion or pressure. It's natural to feel some worries but good communication is the key. Being relaxed and able to share things with your partner who is also probably feeling nervous will ease the tension. And what follows is not a set of rules. Rules about sex are impossible-- what should matter is that what you do makes you feel good. And "feeling good" should last past the sex itself. And that means have safe sex so that you don't have to later worry about getting pregnant or catching some horrible disease.
*Will I be a good lover? *
Don't worry about this question at all. Being a good lover doesn't happen automatically and immediately. You have to give it a little time. And of course with the right partner, patience, time, care, and practice, you will definitely become a great lover. Your first times, for both you, will be fumbling, embarrassing and awkward, but hopefully they'll be the start of great times ahead for the rest of your lives.
Its not the time but the quality that matters. Chodry Sahib, dont worry evrything will be ok. If it is really your first time and you last more than a minute or tow ...it will be a job well done.
I don’t think I called it a health “problem”…I said health issues (topics). Maybe, you misunderstood my message.
That’s why I didn’t give my opinion and gave the website address instead…
Chodry, I have a feeling you will soil your tidy whities before you even get to the promised land. Practice...son!!! get some practice in!!!
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Chodry, I have a feeling you will soil your tidy whities before you even get to the promised land. Practice...son!!! get some practice in!!!
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A man speaking from experience. wasiey, all this "sex" talk will make things very mechanical for our friend Chodry.
Well i may get a bit more graphic (not promising anything) so those who do not want to read may just skip this part.
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Women are aroused very differently then men. Men thrive on sexuality, women rather have a sensual experience. That means alot of foreplay. That also means not going directly for the beehive. Tease her stroke her etc. The neck and the base of the back of the head where it meets the neck (the base of the skull) are two areas where you can excite a female other than the normal places. There are of course many more but you just have to see which she responds to.
Another idea even before getting to the sack with her is that you may wish to "go down" on her if you are so inclined. That of course would require a graphic assessment. Honestly do a google search, i bet there is this sort of information in graphic and pictoral detail on the web.
Another i guess you need to know is that a female climax is very very different than a mans. It is harder to make them reach that state then for men. Thus the foreplay. Also its alot stronger etc. Of course there is the other bit that a female can climax more than once and each time she climax's its stronger.
One point to remember is that women do not have a "on switch" like men do for sex. Rather you have to get them in the mood and of course there is the foreplay again. Since this is your first time foreplay would be necessary.
This post should be taken in conjunction with what Funguy had to say.
Being married myself for some time now, both the posts by highsocietylady and CM are putup quite good. Well Mr. chodhry it absolutely NORMAL to be worried about the things ur feelng specially if its arranged marraige and/or your first time.
Now words of advice ... Your wife is the women you are going to live with all of ur life (hopefully) ... dont do anything Stupid the first night that puts a bad impression on her right from the very start... i know some guys get pressured from there buddies to show thier manhood bigtime. But remember she's ur "Life Partner" ... just try to think from her side ... what would she be feeling at that moment ... the anxiety of leaving her parents home and the pressures of getting along in an alien environment. You might need to watch Mel Gibson's movie "What Women Want" ... take some pointers from there. Anyway the more you make her comfortable the better it is for you both in short and long terms. Remember that Sex is truely enjoyed when BOTH partners TRUELY are into it... No one side story. Take you time .... use communication to soften both of u up. Ask her about her feelings too.
After reading all the different posts you might be thinking the 'first time' as something really daunting ... but thats not like that .... im sure couple of years down the line you'll be laughing as y u were so anxious at that time.
Best of luck