Salaams
Im not one of those ladies that look down at other mothers, Im fully aware that as mothers we are already hard on ourselves with the huge responsibility of raising children. Having said that, there is a breed of mothers particularly in the pakistani community that are raising the most ill mannered, unislamic, immoral children on the face of the earth. They tend to be slightly an older lady generally with 2 or more children . Theyre children run havoc in schools, playgrounds and amoungst the community, but the mothers just ignore theyre behaviour or see nothing wrong with it.
Here is an example, I live in a compound in Saudi, now theyre are two families whos children act like this, they go hitting other pples children, using foul language and have built up a reputation as being little bullies in the compound. Alhumdulillah i live in a compound where everyone is a muslim, we have different muslims from all over the world, but these ladies being of pakistani backround ( actually from the east not expats from the west) given other pakistani a very bad reputation. It seems they have come into a little money and hired theyre maids and feel that it relinquishes all ties of discplining there children.
Now myself also being of pakistani descent but being born and raised in the west as are my children and husband, tend to have more islamic morals than these children that are put in the american schools and cant speak a word of english( but parents want them to have american accents). They can hear the azan and do not go in to pray, if they are jealous of some one they feel its ok to hit and put them down, my neighbor ;s daughter who is egyptian was scratched so hard on her body yesterday that she was bleeding. When my neighbor approached the mother about the problem she shrugged it off. My neighbor was so angry, she came up to me and asked me if i can talk to her in Urdu and make her understand that they keep on bullying others in the compound. When i approached the mother she just said ohh theyre kids these things happen tell your neighbor(the egyptian lady) to calm down its just a little scratch. I was soo shocked, but walked away.
On a daily basis we hear about these kids behaving like this, and parents see nothing wrong with it. I have forbidden my kids to play with them, and the naughty pakistani kids are now picking on them. calling them names like british pigs, and bad words in urdu and so on. My daughter who is 10 yrs old wears a hijab, is excelling in school, very respectful to others now has such a bad veiw of pakistani as they are so mean to others in the compound. I have told her that not all pakistani 's are like this but i think that the damage is done. The sad thing is these women tend to be of such an age that they should know better( in thyre 40’s) . The other non pakistanis and some very nice pakistani pple are fed up but these children cannot be controlled untill the mothers tend to do something about it. which they wont as they cant be bothered!!. Does problem exsist in Pakistan with mothers. btw i have come across this breed of mothers also in the UK, they also tend to be born and raised in pakistan. Is it old mother syndrome? what are these womens problem?