Re: some more advice please :+(
His parents **raised **him. You will never be onthe same level as his parents, nor do you deserve to be. Granted, he should be considerate of your feelings but not at the cost of hurting his parents. If his parents ask him to take them out, then he should probably say something like: “I’ve made plans with nadzz and the kids but you’re welcome to join us…”
As for the hajj thing, let it go. Your husband made the right call.