This lady I know is very interested about me and wants to meet my family for obvious reasons.
I haven’t seen her for a while but she keeps in contact every month and asks my friends and former associates about me. I’m winding down on my degree and plan on coming back within 6 months and I see her contacting me more often than usual via fb and texts.
I found out she has a bf and I heard that it isn’t going all that well between them. I feel a bit like a back up
What is the best way to disengage with her? I will be working in the same hospital system and we share the same network of friends so I want to tread carefully.
Keep it civil and just keep contact minimum and to the point. Dont read into it much and now you know she has a bf try and detach your feelings to stop yourself getting hurt. Its not nice if she sees you as a backup.!
Just limit any socializing to group gatherings and don't single her out in conversations or contact her yourself. If she does contact you, be brief in your responses to any queries she may have and adopt a formal tone. If she still persists, that's on her and not your problem.
Wow good points. I never really considered any of them and feel a bit silly. I just don't want to appear too awkward or offended if she talks to me again.
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wow I read this as OP was a woman and was SO CONFUSED.
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