While there are many great things about cultural practices in the subcontinent, there’s a few I think our generation needs to change. These are observations and experiences and please feel free to add your thoughts:
I think that many (not all) families still make their sons feel guilty for wanting to move out into a new place (even if it isn’t for marriage). The concept of “personal space” isn’t understood or welcomed. One could be living in an ancestral home with tons of folks, adults sharing rooms etc., one son decides to rent an apartment because he needs some privacy and all hell breaks loose. Why so?
When married women living abroad travel to their hometowns for vacation, they are expected to spend more time at their in-laws than at their parent’s home. In fact, if both families show up at the airport, she is expected to go home with her in-laws. I know 2 friends who just went through that hence my confidence in this point. And they are both from “educated” families in Karachi. We’re not talking rural Pakistan/india here.
Re: Some cultural practices that could require an upgrade
But we cannot control their sensibility and maturity, what we can control is our response and effective solutions to regular problem, in a month, we generally get to know each member of family so it is easy to outsmart them
Re: Some cultural practices that could require an upgrade
Yes, true for us. Some of us don’t have those kind of issues and some have figured things out. In some cases, it’s just pretty bad regardless of how hard one tries. We just need to change things so we can break some trends.
Re: Some cultural practices that could require an upgrade
not one that I know of, secondly I don’t find it tough, or may be I am the luckier one, but it is different agreed, but justl like them we have to make adjustment as well. If hubby is different from brother, so is his mother different from one’s own mother.
