Some advice please

I was talking to a friend the other day. His parents found him a very nice girl in Pakistan. She just graduated as a doctor from one of the prestigous medical schools (Aga Khan i believe) and is farily attractive as well.

So needless to say, my friend got very excited as this seemed a good rishta. But now the problem is that the girl’s family say that they don’t want to send their daughter overseas. As far as I know, there is no immigration issues since the guy is an ABCD.

So my question was that has anyone faced this issue before? or what would be the best way to I guess the convine the girl’s parents.

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I heard that too that now girls in Pakistan are not really big on coming to America and all . May be one solution can be that he can go back to Pakistan . Live there for sometime . Win their trust that their daughter is in good hands and in the meanwhile convince her parents . If she is the only daughter then he can also try to bring her parents to America too . It will be hard for them to live alone without her .

And noone (as usual) is asking what the girl wants?

:halo:

Why? Its not as if the girl is contniue to live with them after marriage, she’s going to live with her husband regardless, be that in Pakistan or in a foriegn land!

Don’t know why the parents have an issue with it.

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^ Isn't it an arrange marriage ?? !! :p

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It looks it, but asking the girl if she is prepared to move outside Pakistan would seem common sense because at the end that decision should lie with her and not the parents! Ladkay se to shaadi maa baap ki to nahi honi na! :p

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Well if he doesn't want to move back then I'm sure there are many other girls he could look at...I mean he hasn't made any committments here, has he? She's is one of the many he will be seeing during the process. But if he and she really like each other, then they could talk out a compromise.

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You do realize there are a lot of single pretty female physicians here that he can check out as well. Regardless of whether she is from here or there, he is going to have to put up with nasty residency schedules and in her case probably the tensions of the USMLE's.

Number of med students have increased and they're not increasing residency spots so the competition she is going to face is going to be nasty. I don't blame her for not wanting to leave.

And somehow it was not mentioned before making rishta where she will be living????

If she does not want to move or family has problem with it then leave her alone.

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Theres nothing you can do, Either he moves to Pakistan. Or just reject the rishta.

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Find another girl! :)

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yep yep ... try to talk to them nicely and if it doesn't work then it doesn't work