.. for my friend. She is a divorcee and registered herself now on a muslim marriage site. Well, guess what. Someone sent her a message who has never ever been married before. That is scaring.
She is looking for someone who is also a divorcee. The reason is that females are never really safe or secure. In later years, if something ever would happen, she could get tanay for being a divorcee.
What’s your opinoin on this? Apart from never being married before, he seems ok. Does something like that ever work out, considering the fact that divorced females are treated worse than divorced males.
Mr Bombastic Sir, I politely ask You why You assume this is the start of a male bashing thread? I've asked an opinion, maybe someone here has seen similar situations and can give some feedback.
I nevertheless thank You Sir for giving me the honour of replying in my thread anyways, despite of Your answer...
Hmm.. if he's ok with that she is divorced then i dont see the problem of it yeah 1 problem there is if his parents is not ok with it what happends lots of by desi family.
But does that guy know that she was married before?
Yes, he does, at least if he read her info carefully. Everybody registered on the site is supposed to write something about him/herself. She also put in the profile in the section of what kind of person you're looking for, that she is actually looking for a divorcee too.
Anyway, she decided to leave it. thanks for your reply anyway. :)
Those websites are not the place to look for men. Does she know anyone in her generation, that experienced a divorce or someone she knows who might know someone?
Not that she knows. She decided to let the subject rest. It’s no use anyway, besides she isn’t even sure if she really is ready. So it’s best to wait and leave everything to Allah. If He wishes so, she will have a second husband, if He doesn’t she will remain single.
It was a bad idea. She should use her head better which she often fails to do…
If she really wants to meet someone then he needs to get out the house a little more. By that, I mean attending family and friend event.
Make sure she lets them know what she likes and many people go out of their way to find others a soulmate or partner unless she is a really bitter person like PCG here then I guess all you can say to her is "goodluck".
if the first one was with her choice let her parents decide this time... if first one was parents then this one should be her choice....;
sometimes people cant make best choices for themselves....
how old is the guy if he is over 30 and lives in pakiland he is freakin fraud...[usually that isnt the case with 30 years old they are nerver single]
forget about tanay and forget about people, let your friend do what she feels right.
and about the unmarried guy proposing if hes genuine and sincere then let her go for it
its not healthy to always think negative
I had a divorced friend who was looking for a partner and she also advertised on a matrimonial website.... she ended up marrying somebody she had met with out the help of the service but the types of people who had replied to her ad were mostly young boys from Pak or India looking to get to the Uk, widowers upto the age of 57 (she was 33)
and single chaps who dont mind divorced girls because they are not of the mindset that that these girls are used goods or that there must have been something wrong with them to have been discarded.
I think that your friend should look at all cases and view each one on their merits rather than looking for a certain "kind".
She doesn't know that much about that person, but like I said, she's dropped it.
She's going to see if there is someone closer to home, so it's easier to make a judgement, even though you can still be wrong anyway.
But if she doesn't find anyone, she's still fine. She's learnt to become emotional independant if she needs to. It would be nice for her to have someone who really cares on her side. But if it isn't meant to be, then it's ok too. :) She can be alone and still happy too, alhamdulilah.
