Alvena, I'm sorry to sound harsh, but I don't have much sympathy for you. You wasted everyone's time, including yours when you decided not to tell your parents about him and not to tell him about rishtas. You wasted the time of the people who brought rishtas in good faith. You indirectly lied to everyone, in my book, you got what was coming to you. Sorry, that's just how I see it.
Thats fine
Ok first- i told him i was getting rishtas but not full on details of each person because whats the point if they dont work out or get serious
2- i was not going to tell my parents because we arent ready for marriage, they would have panicked and assumed i was up to all sorts when i wasnt
they know hes a very good friend of mine but not that we shared mutual feelings.
This is one place i can come to help me cope and i am greatful for everyone who has suppported me despite me being a silly little girl or whatever.