Re: some advice please-feeling lost :(
Don't fall for the tears, Alvena. I know that you're a sensitive person and seeing him cry is likely to soften you. But you need to be strong.
A person can't drop you.....and then only days later.....decide to pick you up again. Such behavior doesn't not prove anything other than the fact that the person is not sure of what he wants.
You want to be with a guy who is stable and mature and knows what he wants right? Well.....these qualities don't develop in a matter of days, hon. They take time. So......my advice is that you continue being the strong girl that you are and focus on yourself and figure out what you want in your life.
In spite of your X's crying.......even HE needs a break to sort out his feelings and decide what path he wants to follow in his life. This break will help him learn more about himself and hopefully in the process he'll become more mature and more capable of handling relationships.
If this guy is destined for you........Allah will make it happen.......so let him become mature for that. If he's destined to be with you........let him feel the pride and dignity of winning you over with sincerity and maturity like a man.........and not through shame and tears and desperation like a little boy.
And if he's not destined for you........Allah will give you someone even better. But a break is a must for the both of you. Continue being polite but not too attached to him.