Lady lama i dnt think there any such case of uncle.
Im just giving some general advice to help a person like others are.
Alvena
Every time i come in this post and read his relentless approaches to you I get more heated.
This boy really has a lot of growing up to do. He also needs a sensible man to punch some sense into him on the manners of speaking with decent women.
I would double , not double triple ditto this time every line of RV's and Lady Lamas last potsts.
Especially the part where they said 'he is trying to get your attention'.
Alvena, Im a guy and so I have the advantge of relating to this guys intentions.
And even i agree that it is clear he is 'trying everything in the book' to get your attention now.
He knows the lovey-dovey, affectionate approaches have failed to knock you off your rational, so now he is trying the 'been oppresed' approach to make you feel sorry and emotional towards him.
Whatver you do, dont loose your rational. That is your best offense.
It seems like you are an extremly emotional and sensitive, nice person, which he and other people are trying to take advantge of.
It clear hes desperate to retrieve your extra-friendly friendship. And a desperate person can stoop to any tact-tic.
The things you saw him shouting about in the common room. Could still be his pre-set-up drama. Ofcourse you would not be there, but common friends or people could have been that could have passed on the great dramatic events gossip.
And even if he was being serious, there nothing in it to benefit you as even if he wants you its only as a girl toy not as a real partner.
Alvena I think you cannot totally avoid being influenced by him as long as you have to be around/work with him.
But what you can do is be ASSERTIVE like he did, and lay down some rules in your relationship how he likes to do.
Show him you are not a girl who will be let walked over.
Have a serious chat with him, tell him that you do not appreciate his recent inappropriate gestures towards you and that you dont feel safe around him and because of that you do not want be friends for some time. Tell him you only want to interact with him if nesscesary and not beyond that.
^convey to him you also need space and time to think through what you want in life too.
Alvena, I feel straightforwardness is the only way left now to enforce that neccesery distance.
And, this boy likes to make calls in the relationship, why dont you do that for a change?
Tell him firmly but politely you do not wish to remain more than work and casual aqauintence level with him for some time.
Alvena, He has made it clear that he is not willing to enter a halal/firm commitment with you. Then on what premise is that 'love' he has for you?
Use your brain.
If you melt towards his 'love', its still apparent that a girlfriend/closer female position is the only one you will have in his life.
And looking at his past record, you will have no stability in this relation either, since he has the habit of dumping you when hes had enough burden or enough fun.
If that is acceptable for you then by all means let him 'melt' you.
But if you are a girl of respect and want a man who not only 'LOVES' but also 'RESPECTS' then its clear hes not the one, and you need that distance from him.
Unless he become more responsible and mature with his feelings and relationship with you you should maintain a distance.
Hope you speak to him about this.
And to also reduce exposure to him, minimize your company with his boys and common friends, and get more in the company of your own closer and good mates .