It’s not so much being scared of people, it’s more like not wanting to be around people, maybe ‘anti-social’ is a better word? Recently, I’ve found complete happiness in my own company. I’ll be sitting in my room for hours on end, not having spoken to anyone and I’ll be feeling a bit sorry for myself and wishing for company, but when one of my friends do come to visit me, I actually dread it and wish I was alone again.
Its a bit scary actually, am I becoming a wierdo? I really dont mind being by myself and accompanied by my own thoughts. I used to be like this in my early teens until my parents forced me to start talking. It looks like its coming back again.
Help me to start liking people again.
Maybe its because Im missing my family and friends that I dont want to be around anyone else, what is it? Does everyone go through this? What if a person is married? Do you tell your husband to leave you alone for a day or two? lol
Catty I think we just all need some time to kick back with our own thoughts and re-charge...nothing wrong with wanting to be alone..in fact when i come home after a long day I prefer being alone...don't feel liek talking...just want to be by myself..nothign wrong with it..unless you provide me with extra special hugs..then you're more than welcome to stick around :D
I don't mind being surrounded by hoards of kids though..but I find adults very annoying :D
Oh yeah, when I'm alone I read, watch tv, do stuff that keeps me interested. I also like going shopping by myself, other people confuse me when Im shopping.
Maddy, good to know Im not alone, I guess it is pretty normal isnt it, to reflect on ones own thoughts.
Especially if you;re a thinker like me...I think and ponder on things for hours on end...even if they aren't really all that significant but to me every lil detail is...
I worry myself to death..hope you don't do that :D
Same here Cat-woman, i seem to suffer from sociophobia too!
And its very very hard to get along with hubby sometimes, i mean confidence drops low. i'm just sort of speechless - most of time....
May happen to some who can't speak the language or have to make an effort to do so.
J/k... May be you are homesick. Or you don't really have the kind of friends around with whom you'd really like to spend time.
If the situation persists when you go back to SA, then it will be something to get counseling for. Or may be just get out of the shell. Unlike some other views expressed here, IMO, being anti-social/loner/sociophobic is nothing to cherish.
Its ok. Thunday aloo bokharay khao theek ho jao gi.
I normally pull a George Costanza in such situations...do all those things that are opposite to your instincts. Go out meet people...play loud music...date a Japanese guy...Go crazy!
Lighten up and think positive or pose maro in the image gallery for a change...haven't seen you in a while.
hey cat, i'll agree with Faisal bhai...i think u dont have friends whom u really like and feel comfortable around u...
i'm like that sometimes too when i dont have my close friends with me or someone with whom i feel i connect...tho one shudnt be and try to be happy and adjust to all surroundings...
but i urge u to not take this as something normal...try to mingle shingle with people...being alone is not good
