My son is 2.5 yrs old and he can’t speak properly yet and I think he has trouble socializing with kids his age because they don’t understand him. I know he enjoys their company because he gets really excited when he’s around them but he ends up getting aggressive when they don’t know what he wants, ex. they’ll be playing and then suddenly he’ll want to hug them, they don’t want a hug or don’t know what he’s doing so they try to get away so he pushes them or pulls their hair.
He isn’t like this with all kids but with some of the ones he sees more and misses when they aren’t around. These kids aren’t completely innocent, they are children after all, so they push him around too but it isn’t noticed because they know how to speak so they complain loudly whenever he does something whereas he doesn’t know how to tattle and he just wants to play so keeps going back to them, which leads to the situation where the other parents think their kids are completely innocent so they scold him. I always stop him whenever he’s aggressive and at eye level explain to him he hurt them and make him apologize and remove him from the situation if it continues, but they keep fighting whenever they’re together, not constantly, but for every two minutes of play something happens.
How do you deal with fights between kids and how can I get mine to behave? I don’t want him to be bullied but I don’t want him to be a bully either.
He sounds to me like a normal two year old...and you know "terrible twos" aren;t called just for the fun of it:D
One thing I would really recommend is does his doctor think he/she is fine in reahing the milestones of a 2 year old. Or google them and see for yourself.
^ I agree.It sounds normal two year old behavior, especially if he's the first child.
You have to be constantly on it though , keep repeating yourself , telling him over and over again that it's wrong to push/shove. Be firm, and remove him from the situation when he doesn't listen.
You're doing the right thing , it will get better in time.
If there is someone in particular , who scolds your child because her child complains loudly , even when they are doing the same thing, , what you could do is watch the situation very closely , and also politely tell the other kids not to push and shove .
That is very normal with two year olds.....and keep taking him out every now and then to socialize with other kids...they learn a lot from other kids their age.
Have you taken any advice to address the speaking issue? My friend's daughter was exactly like that at the same age, she didn't speak, was normally placid until people couldn't understand, then become aggressive.
Health visitor advise her to get the daughter eating food that she would need to chew and swallow, because up until then daughter had been on soft foods and hadn't exercised the muscles that you need to speak with.
My cousin didn't speak until he about 3.5, and then he wouldn't shut up!
Other than that I have no further advice, hope it helps.
Thanks for your replies, I feel much better knowing it's normal two year old behavior. I thought that too since the other kids are also two years old and they get rough as well, but since he gets singled out by the parents as being the aggressive one I thought maybe I was doing something wrong.
About his speech, I get worried when I read the milestones but I remind myself that every kid learns at their own pace. He chews Mashallah so I don't think it's his muscles, more the environment since it isn't exactly encouraging. I think he needs to be given more opportunities to say things instead of yes or no questions but I live with my ils and they're the type who like to talk for people (including me), which is counterproductive. I still try to encourage him as much as possible but kids are smart and he knows he can get what he wants faster with them with less effort than with me.
Honestly ,I wouldn't tell you not to get it checked out , as only you would know what to do, but I've noticed that boys speak a bit later than girls , and the first-borns take their own sweet time.
Now when you have your second, you'll notice they'll crawl,walk,talk much sooner than the first.
Now,when he talks , can you figure out what he's saying, not other people , but you?
I would keep encouraging him to use his words, e.g if he's pointing towards water , ask him to ask for it, say"water" or whatever.Keep doing it a couple of times, and he'll start using more words.
I know what he says for the most part. His pronunciation isn't good but you just need to pay attention to figure out what he's saying. Thanks for your advice, I'll try to keep it up.