Socializing after marriage

Lifestyle Relationships
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If you’re married (with or without kids), how often do you meet with your own friends…I don’t mean meeting as a couple/family but individually.

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Re: Socializing after marriage

Never and thats because I have always been a loner. He is my buddy and I cherish every momen we spend together. However, I do think meeting up with friends every once in a while is very healthy and gives you time away from each other and sort out any differences you have. BUT I don't ever recommend discussing your marital issues with friends and family unless it involves abuse

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Re: Socializing after marriage

Individually, he meets with his friend(s) at least once every 2 weeks. Sometimes 1x/week but this depends on his work schedule.

Although I talk/chat with my friends often....for me to go and see my friends on my own in person....that happens maybe 1x/month. But this is a complete choice on my part. I have no problem staying home by myself and doing housework, reading, watching TV etc.

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Re: Socializing after marriage

never coz i ain't got no friends. :/

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Re: Socializing after marriage

it is because you live far away from community. m i correct?

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Re: Socializing after marriage

yeah sort of. besides I've got so many responsibilities, I don't see myself becoming a social bug before 5 years when kids are old enough to be in school and stuff and I'm working or studying or both.

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Re: Socializing after marriage

Nope. there are other reasons that we should not discuss here.

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Re: Socializing after marriage

When I was working then once a week or once every two weeks, but now that I'm on MAT leave then a few times a week.

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Re: Socializing after marriage

I do go visit my friends once in a while...but I'm not into that too much. I prefer socializing with my family. I'm not the "girls night out" or let is girls go watch a movie or get together for lunch type of person...I much rather sit at home, have coffee and read a nice book.

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Re: Socializing after marriage

On average, I meet them once a month (one of the full-day things).

Um, grabbing a cup of coffee or lunch/dinner, thats kinda rare these days...but that too I'd say once a month. Otherwise I keep up with friends online/on the phone/etc

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Re: Socializing after marriage

If we exclude meeting at dawats, masjid and so on, I would say about once a month or once every 2 months. That usually involves having lunch/coffee together.

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Re: Socializing after marriage

I do not have a social life outside of family. I do not have any close friends nearby . I have moved many a times and it is hard to have close friends if you have moved many a times in your life. My wife on the other hand has a group of housewives who meet frequently for breakfast or lunch.

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Re: Socializing after marriage

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14

Re: Socializing after marriage

You gots me baby ;)

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Re: Socializing after marriage

Very rarely.

We now mostly socialize as a family. Not that there is any restriction from me or her, its just that all of our friends are now married too so mostly its a family fun. Even if that means that we are dropping our wives at mall so they can have a shopping blast and we the guys stepping into Paintball or Go carts across the street to have our own time.

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Re: Socializing after marriage

I thought i was the only loner in this world .. but glad to know there are others out there too :cb:

Since I got married , I just dont socialize no more … friends still try to go out and have get togethers .. but i just dont feel comfortable leaving husband behind and doing my own thing … I am happy when we both meet with a couple or friends for example .. which we do every alternate week …

But my own friends are now limited to either phone calls or online :hinna:

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Re: Socializing after marriage

Most of my friends and his friends have become "our" friends now. We meet almost every weekend. Of course, it helps that we don't have kids so we have the time to socialize.

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Re: Socializing after marriage

All my pre wedding friends are back home so meeting them is not an option. But i get to call them atleast once in two month and have a long gup shup. The friends that i have over here are mostly my hubby's friends wives. But sometimes we do meet up without hubbies usually once in a month to have a girls day/night out kind of thing. But this is also feasible because we dont have any kids yet because once u have kids, i guess it becomes more difficult to manage activities not involving kids.

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Re: Socializing after marriage

depends...sometimes maybe once a month..other times 2/3x in a month.

I have different groups of friends, and most of them time its during my lunch hour at work. Other times its dessert or a movie.

I would like to do more couples things, but hubby's not into that - especially with non mehram men. With my bros and their wives, then sure.

I like that he gives me space.

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Re: Socializing after marriage

as often as i did before. if i'm socialising with my work friends, then hubby joins us if he can. as for all my other friends, meeting up with them on my own doesn't seem to be a problem. shock horror i even meet up for dinner with my pals from my masters who are guys, just 2-3 times a year as a catch up.