social influences - 'friends' that misguide in life decisions

doubts, mistrust, and suspicions are unfortunate things which take a person down, although s/he has her/his first hand experiences that doubts, mistrust and suspicions are wrong ideas, to assess someone’s true nature. especially someone to whome one comes for respiteand benefits from but only for a short while, perhaps for having a very narrow minded selfish nature or perhaps for being unsure, and kept as in enslavement of the mind.

it is worse when ‘friends’ create that situation. the person becomes sorrily over whelmed by ‘friends’ ceated picture of what may be or will be wrong if a woman/man pursued a course of action which entailed being confident in her/ his own self.

such a person loses, one after another, and is never happy.

presuming that s/he was true when you indicated something, and he had a wish to obtain what he set out to obtain.

could it be that the friends were il informed as well? that everyone was ignorant?

when it happens, then where does it leads to, both the misled and the ones who mislead and encourage to remain doubtful and base a decision on that?

share your thoughts if you like.

best,
Dushwari

Re: social influences - 'friends' that misguide in life decisions

i am grateful to God for my good friends.

but from observing others, it is quite glaringly obvious that some friends of people one knows or knew, are influenced by their friend/s' encouragement to follow the wrong decisions for life.

so nice would it be that those friends, who claim that they are friends, dont keep on giving wrong advice to their relying friend.

infact, friends ought to be those who do do the reality check, but dont help burn boats for their friend who is confused on any range of things in his/her life.

reasons can be ignorance or jealousy or unconcious or conscious spiteful nature, and such 'friends' later on dont even bother to look back and admit to the fact that they aided their friend in making a bad decision that may impact the rest of this friend's life.

any thoughts on this?

best,
Dushwari