How to gather your strengths and move on with life?
Try to close the chapter or leave someone which you loved most and maybe will never able to live like before.. is there a way?
How to react to parents/relatives question with whom you are fighting for years for her?
When someone left you in the middle of the road, saying nothing and you have thousands of unanswered questions - how can one gather the pieces of himself, put them back?
I don’t wanted to spend rest of my days in vein and nights in drunkness !
Nothing we can say would comfort you at this point. Only time can make you feel like your self again.
1-To people who love you, only you matter. If they know you been trough pain they will be only happy its over(happy and sad at same time.)
2-There are NO unanswered question; Her brain is mess. Your love could not fix. She will grow mature at her own time.
3-Way she acted before, its obvious she didn’t not carry out discussion to understand/resolve matter with you. She did it to carry on with her addiction.
So to me/us there is no mystery. I am so sorry for your loss.
You wont be sad for a long time. Trust me.
If you guys were romantically involved, then I guess you are entitled to reasons of her leaving you or not talking to you. Otherwise if she/he is just a friend, then she/he is not obligated to provide you with the rationale behind the breakup. Again if you were engaged/married, then it's a different story....you deserve to know the reasons behind the split.
Dude you got two options man it up or woman it up.
Man it up is accept there are plenty of fish in the sea and you are frankly better off without her. Yes harsh I know but it is a slow realization once you take in account everything you have been through. I don't know the girl, but based off the last thread you posted, you are definitely better off without her.
Yes we do not know the whole story, and we do not know how deeply attached you were, but that makes you blind. Romantic involvement makes you blind to the actual reality of the situation.
So tell yourself you are better off, because you are.
Secondly NO WOMAN is ever worth fighting with your parents. Never. Your parents love you unconditionally. The girl does not. Personal experience and what I have seen with my friends and family reinforces this idea very much. Pakistani women only start the unconditional love part when they are married. It is part of their psyche. So don't waste your breath on women unless its family approved and sanctioned. They are entertainment for now, treat them as such. A proper commitment comes with a family sanction.
Also time you apologise and admit you were wrong to your family members and parents. That will go a long way.
How do you put yourself back together? Sheer will power. Good friends and a strong family. Only way. Frankly you should figure out what you can and what you can not **** it. Move on, she was not worth it if she left you in the middle of the road.
Lastly you can woman it up but sleeping with a bunch of women to make yourself feel better. But that doesn't work.
Whatever happens, happens for the best. Thats what I've been told many times. The best part is hidden though, only time could reveal this. So keep waiting and hope for the best :)
One thing I would like to add is that do offer Namaz regularly and keep yourself busy, thats the only solution as far as I know!
Sometimes it takes time before you can move on with your life. Also it's important to talk about your problems.
I've had so many problems after my parents had married me off, I never told anyone outside the family the real story of what was going on, nobody really knew. I didn't talk about it for many years. Only some years after I finally was divorced, I started to tell what had really happened. And only after I had talked about it, I felt much better and only then I could really move on.
So talking helps and taking time helps if you have any problem, whatever it is. Nowadays I don't have any problem at all anymore. Nothing that used to be an issue before is an issue now. But there are certain things that you don't ever want to do again, after someone did something awful to you. Or certain things that will always hurt. Like when someone dies, you get over it after a while, but the rest of your life, whenever you will talk about that person, sometimes it will bring tears to your eyes, but that doesn't mean you haven't moved on with your life. It's just the way it is. Or you will never do certain things the rest of your life, which remind you of someone who did something terrible to you, that doesn't mean you haven't moved on with your life. It's just something you'll never do again.
Most important is, talking about it, taking it easy, taking your time. If you don't talk about it, it will become difficult to move on.
