so you dont love your wife anymore

I think your question is very narrow. The question one should ask one self is..why would you want to be na-shukra? when God has given you good job, wife, and kids?. Life is what we make out to be..so it is up to us to get mature up and work your marriage if this needs work.
I would rather islamically marry and have another wife then flirting or have “casual” female companion.