well than maybe you should re-phrase your question, there was no legit concerns in there about being 'emotionally intune', seemed like a bored individual, you said 'life was good'...how about individuals taking responsiblity for their decisions in life and sticking by them instead of treating life like a sticky note.
*well then maybe *you should be so deficient. I described a textbook existentialist crisis. Who are you to pass judgement on what is and is not "legit"? If your (very sensitive and grown up) advice is that the individual should stick by his responsibilities and sacrifice his sense of self - that is valid. But it does lead me to wonder whether this "living a lie" is fair to his wife? What is the definition of fidelity? Is it simply fulfilling lifes tangible obligations?
Or is fidelity important at all, as long as a happy veil covers it?
Would the wife be correct to feel wronged if she ever read his blog, or should she laud him as a hero for "sticking at it"
These are important questions that many people face in their lives, irrespective of their racial orientation. All of which were implied in my opening post. Next time I'll take note to cover all intellectual bases and make things much more explicit for fear of losing people in the subtlety.