So why did she do it?

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Re: So why did she do it?

@cpa2011

maybe she saw them lying around, and put them in a safe place. But then she forgot where she put them.

Think about it, you didnt think it was her fault until she found the rings. I wouldn’t start thinking any more into this, until this starts becoming a common occurance. She seems nice, being conciderate of ur studies and all.

Thanks! I have toyed with this theory but she didn’t tell me for a while even after she had “found” and placed them back.

@chacha_Ghalib

This is what I was talking about.

The other downside to posting about your relatives is that every aira ghaira nathoo khaira starts dissing them. I don’t know how people put up with that. I might have problems with my relatives but I certainly don’t like random people dissing them.

@gudiaali

OP, you don’t have any evidence that your MIL hid them.
it happens that sometimes we cant see the things right in front of us. specially the tiny ones. she might have found them lying in the house somewhere.

@khawateen

honestly… i dont think she has anything to do with it…

its happened to me plenty of times… i wont he able to find something right infront of me… i will search and search… read innalilah hay wa inallay rajeeon and boom…look again and there it is …

dont overthink it.

you found your stuff…move on. its a relationship that will stay with you forever…its best you keep it clean and happy.

Thank you for your comments guys, and for everyone else not quoted. Actually, I wasn’t looking advice. This was more along the lines of me thinking out loud about why she would have done something like that (maybe like Khawa said, I should get back to blogging).

As for those questioning whether she even did it. To me, its not about if.. its about why she did it. I know that people tend to sometimes miss things that are right in front of you, but the reason why I went into so much detail in my first post was to emphasis that I had already looked multiple times. This isn’t me trying to find something to pin on my mil who other than this has been really good to me since the wedding. Forget her, I haven’t even discussed this again with my husband ever since we first talked about it. What she did was not nice, so what is the point of bringing something embarrassing up about a parent to his son? What good would that achieve, and what good would posting something negative about my mil achieve here? So trust me, when I say that it was moved from there, it did.

Khawa, I already read “in lilah…” multiple times and gave myself breaks. This is a very small ledge we are talking about so the chance of missing two rings is very very small. Furthermore, my mil was sitting inches away having her tea there when I was on the phone with my hubby and he asked me to look in the exact spot. In front of her, i went and told him I’m looking again, and its not there. So even she saw that they weren’t there; this spot was literally inches away from her! I even pointed to that corner multiple times in front of her and told her I always keep them there.

Getting to the point why I posted it was not to draw negative attention towards her. I don’t think the tone in my post even alluded to it. I was more irked by the fact that she put it in the same place that she knew would make me suspicious of her. Even though I had turned my house upside down sans her room, I wouldn’t even for a second would have thought she had anything to do with it had they been recovered anywhere else in the house but this is a very prime spot we are talking about and she wanted me to know she had moved them. This is WHY I had posted it, because knowing the plethora of mil/dil issues posted on here, I thought maybe someone who could relate would provide some insight.

And yes, the disclaimer: this or any negative comment about her does not in any way affect my relationship with her. Luckily, I have very thick skin for that.

@LucyMay

Maybe she’s just feeling neglected and craves attention? You said she lost her husband and divides her time between her children. At her age, people dream of enjoying retirement in their own paid-off home with their spouse. Since she changes homes every few months, she probably doesn’t feel like she fits in anywhere (though I’m sure you’ve done all you can to make her feel welcome). She’s probably also fearful that her kids are getting busier and busier in their own lives and don’t depend on her for anything anymore.

What she did was certainly not right, and you should be careful about your things around her. But do continue to treat her with compassion. She’s not in an easy place.

I think that’s what it is. However, its just seeking attention at the expense of ruining a very good relationship. I do get where she’s coming from and empathize with her. Although not financially or physically dependent on any of her kids, its just not easy to change homes or know that your expected to pack your bags and leave every few months. Not a nice feeling and I made sure she feels as welcome as she can in our house for as long as she wants.
I do appreciate all the advice

@Simply_Seema

My husband recently lost his Thumb Support which looks like a baseball glove and me and the siblings spent around 4 hours searching for it in the whole house and he sat there smirking and saying that he has took it off and put on the couch. It was so frustrating that I can not even imagine how the relatives of the Malaysia plane would be feeling.

Any ways after 4 hours when I sat with the hubby on the couch the freaking glove was exactly at the same location where he said he had put it. I am sure it was a prank hubby is playing but he swears by it and he was also searching with us for that thing often times.

so you never know na just take it in good faith and humor and move on

This sucks lol. I’d be SO upset with him. But seriously, losing a thumb support is one thing and losing probably one of the most expensive things I own currently – not just for its market value but also because of the thought and effort my husband put into getting them-- is another. I even went through our bathroom trash! moving on though…