Agree; same here. Sometimes you have get the experience first before making up the rule. So, I make em/adjust as I go along.
The one rule I try to keep in mind (although I do slip up at times) is what goes around comes around. Another rule I try my best to follow is respecting people’s privacy (not asking nosy/tactless questions because that irks me).
And I think that an interesting rule to try to work upon in general…would be to try not get too caught up in the"log kya kahain gay" fear and to consider individuality…n other factors that play into various situations. Regardless of culture/race…this can be a tough one for many people to follow.