both should forget thair individuality and ego and always work as a team. if one spouse is not willing or lacking her 50% then the other spouse must compensate to make the shaadii work for the benefit of children. believe me its workable.the key is the desire, dedication, sincerity, honesty and a determination to succeed is the way to compensate whats lacking in one of the partners.
they should both respect each other as they are and not try to change the person..........everyone has some sort of fault in them but that doesn't mean they are not a good person learning to accept the other person's faults (as long as it's not something major) is a key to having a successful marriage...........another thing is learning to comprimise on certain things and not always expecting to get your way