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yeahh some ppl get married to start a family, I believe some ppl also get married not to start a family. ohhhh maybe they were having trouble getting stuff with out getting married.. hmmm
Whats that? So Are you saying husband and wife do not make a family?
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ok fyne then don't have none. Why open a thread then?
Dont worry you will get out of this phase. Thanks for posting though.
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Whats that? So Are you saying husband and wife do not make a family?
I don't know..
But If my father have ever told "son we didn't want you"
I would be real mad. Don't you think?
With out me they would just two ppl doing nasty stuff.
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If they didn't want you then you wouldn't be here. Anyways it is not related to what I was saying. And if you really think sex is nasty then either you are a 10 years old or its Time to take sex-ed.
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If they didn't want you then you wouldn't be here. Anyways it is not related to what I was saying. And if you really think sex is nasty then either you are a 10 years old or its Time to take sex-ed.
sure go ahead.
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Enroll in your community college.
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lol.
I was offered a teaching job there.
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Bebo i think u misQ’d KA…
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lol
I know it is, or it must be.
But from a child's perspective, how would some one feel like "parents were doing it so they didn't want you".
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U need to get married ASAP..if thas all u think married couples do 
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No matter how hard you try not to have kids but if Allah has written in your qismat you will get it and if not then you cannot get what is not destined for you by Allah swt.My MIL is a gyn/obs..when she used to practice back in India then one lady got her tubal ligation done ie.permanent form of female sterilization done..and even after that she had 4 or 5 kids..SubhanAllah.And another woman got her D&C done...even after that her baby survived and she found it out after a month or two that shes still pregnant.
That's why Allah does not depend upon his creation for anything rather the entire creation depends upon Allah swt.
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Bachay paida karny kay haq main akhree daleel.
Agar bachay na hoo a tow apna janaza khud hee utha kar ley jana para ga. No ?
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No Sara it’s nothing like that. I adore my sibling’s kids but I don’t know when it comes to having my own biological one, the idea never attracts me enough. I believe that kids are a huge responsibility and you have to prepare to accept this. One should not have kids just out of custom or whatever. At least at this point of life I think we are no way ready to have this responsibility. Our priorities are very different and they do not fit a kid for next 7or 8 years atleast. Thanks for your comments SGC but when they are constantly asking you the same question over and over again and refuse to accept your reasoning then it is very difficult to not get all aggitated.
so you plan to have kids with 45? great...
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Numb, you are right to stand your ground and I know how hard it is to endure the comments, suggestions and opinions of those who are NOT ASKED to give them!!! They are JUST the worst!!! Rise above it and do whats right for YOU and your hubby. The persuit of happiness is your personal right. As for those who dont understand, skrewem!!! Looking back at all of the condescending "advice" that I received without asking for it...it seems that its exactly those people who are the most unhappy with their OWN lives. If you get really annoyed with the free advice, you might be able to find a way to point that out - that its usually the people who are unhappiest with their own lives that cannot understand why you conduct your life differently - that might shut them up. Not for long I'm sure. But maybe enough to give you a little break.
Either way though, just try to let it roll off your back, no worries. Just keep on the way that is best for you.
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^ 
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Well put Sahar.
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^ LOL were you able to make sense of my nonsense?
Now maybe you can explain it to me 
Thanks, Sara 
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yes i was able make sense of ya nonsense. :D
Motherhood, raising children and all the responsibilities that come with it isn't for all. Some choose to delay taking up that responsibiliy and some choose not to. *That's all that needs to be said. *
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All these uncles and aunties need to leave the couple alone, especially when it comes to immensely personal choices such as kids, etc. Aren't there SO many things to worry about as it is? How these people find out the time to be so concerned about something that's none of their business amuses me.