Re: So what if I do not want to have kids?
you people only complain about us narrow-minded people...what are u then? narrow-minded is your thinking! you really scare me...on the one side you complain and on the other side u ppl don't tell why becoming parents scares you...
yeah, I know your parents were narrow-minded and wanted to have kids like you who now want to stop the narrow-minded thinking of our culture/elders...
becoming parents is the greatest things in life, lekin tum jaise logon ko kiya patta, ulta fault humara hai kedete ho tum jaise log, yeh narrow-minded soch orat ki hi ho sakti hai, marrad ki naheen...
the attitude in your post before is exactly the kind of narrow-minded thinking that frustrates and scares people who want to become parents, but read this kinda BS and now think their whole life if they can face the responsilbilities coming with the baby, if hubby/whife can still enjoy their life with the childrens...
have a good day...this thread is a joke...
I dont know why, but I agree with your post..
Life does change once you have a child. Your relationship with your spouse definately changes.. but its not all for the bad. Yeah there are a lot of things we cant do (right now) because of a child.. but its a sacrifice you make, which you can probably, most likely fulfil later..
Having a child or not having one is totally a couples decision... but neither sides should call the other narrow-minded.. But yes, I do agree that the reasons we give for our decisions, sometimes, do come across very very narrow-minded..
Not all people who have kids in the first 1-2 years of marriage are narrow-minded or have been put under pressure to have a child.. It's THEIR CHOICE as its yours to not have one... some people believe that'll make them more complete.. I feel more complete with my child.. but at the same time, I felt complete with my hubby too... Yes, we dont get much time on our own these days, but the time we do get alone is very much respected and appreciated..
i of all people can admit that i was sure i could never raise a child.. i couldnt even keep my room clean for more than a day (its worst now!) but having a child gave me a new sense of responsibility and confidence that i dont think i could have gotten before having bubz... i am so much more confident than I have ever been, more comfortable with my appearance, and life in general.. I really dont know how, but I guess for me, it was my daughter who changed me.. for the better :)
neways, thats all